[quote]Am I in the wrong for expecting him to be someone he is not. [/quote]
Yes. It’s always wrong to try to change someone from who they are. It’s also a losing proposition.
[quote]Is there something in our life that is stopping us from having great sex that comes from connecting and being with someone for a period of time?[/quote]
Yes. You said your sex life is impaired partly by his age and partly by his medication. How old are both of you and what medication is he taking? For what illness?
[quote] Is there something I can be doing to encourage him to slow down in bed or try new things both of which he doesn’t want to do. I have tried slowing him down in the act but he won’t. He shuts down whenever sex comes up with us.[/quote]
You’ve answered your own question. He isn’t interested in your sexual satisfaction. Either he’s frustrated that he can’t do what he wants to do and doesn’t want to try and please you, or else he’s just not that interested in you, period.
If you let me know your ages, his medication and his illness I’m happy to advise you further. 🙂
