Ask April MasiniYou’ve become hardened, and while I’m not sure when or why that happened, the bottom line is that you have a lot of masculine energy and this guy you’ve met, who sounds great, has more than you do, and for the first time (ever?) in a long time, he’s turning you into the woman because you’ve met your match in terms of male role playing. Now, for the first time for you, perhaps, you’re with a man who isn’t acting like a child! And that dynamic demands you be the woman (not the mother), and that you be honest and open and you probably haven’t done that in ages.
The glue of relationships is honesty and respect and you can’t have the latter without the former. Your fear of showing your true self is going to prevent you from having his utmost respect and may sabotage the relationship. You’ve done so much in your life, but you haven’t been really honest — and risked rejection like this (with something and someone you really want). Well, darling, it’s time!
You need to peel back the layers and show him who you are, warts and all. You need to cop to your fears. You need to tell him how you feel when you’re around him, and you need to feel and think deeper. What you don’t realize is that by being honest, you give him a chance to see — and love — and reveal his own — a deeper self. And then what happens is that the relationship reaches even more intimate and precious levels. Sex will be even better. Trust will be better. Respect will be better.
Yes, you risk rejection. And that’s what’s held you back, but as you already know, you’re at a turning point and if you don’t face that fear and possible rejection…. you insure it.
Be brave. Be yourself — your whole self — and let him see you. You’ll find that if you do, you’re not turning into someone else, you’re evolving and authenticating your real self
I hope that helps. Let me know how things go
