[Ask April Masini]

I sincerely doubt that a bunch of saline or silicone implants changed your wife’s personality. More likely you didn’t notice that there were changes going on for a while before she decided that implants would make her feel a way she didn’t without them — and wanted to.

As for the changes you mention: It’s pretty normal for someone who gets newer, bigger breasts to want to show them off, so the revealing clothing post-surgery is not really a cause for alarm. In fact, it’s normal. If you get something new, don’t you want to show it off? Call a friend to come see it? Well, she’s doing the same thing. Her hitting the gym also makes a lot of sense since now she’s got a jump on the body she thinks looks great, and she wants to improve on the rest of it. And the confidence she now has is a great thing!

The only two things you mention that seem to be of concern are that since her surgery she seems distant from you and she’s arrogant about her appearance, which seems to offend you — or scare you.

People make changes in their lives for all sorts of reasons and while it’s easy to blame the change in their personality on the plastic surgery or the job change or the new convertible car, the reality is that [i]the desire[/i] to change that came before the change is what’s really important. So dig deeper and ask yourself what was really going on in your relationship before she decided to get the implants that led to this change.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go, and please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter.