[Anonymous]

This sounds like a huge manipulation. Basically, he’s spent the last 6 years treating you like second-rate trash and when you finally decide you are worth a little more than last night’s empty chinese takeout container, he tries to make you feel like something worse than garbage for your insensitivity.

The fact is, if you were important in his life, you would have been the person he called the minute he found out his father had the stroke, because if you were important to him, he’d have wanted to have your love and support to get him through the time. At the very least, he would have let you know that he would be MIA for a bit as a result of what was happening. That’s what adults who care about each other do.

It’s pretty obvious this guy doesn’t care for you one bit.

Who knows if his story is true or not, but either way, you did the right thing and I hope you aren’t packing your bags for the guilt trip he has tried to put you on. Walk away from this emotionally unavailable game player, and do yourself a favour… change your number/email/life and keep him out of it. Unless this guy is in his early 20’s or younger, he’s too old to be given any more chances for change and offering that just leaves the window open for the next time he’s lonely, but not looking for a mature and respectful relationship.

Move on and soon enough you’ll see how destructive this self-absorbed loser has been on your psyche. You’ll wonder why you were ever confused or stayed so long!