You’re right. No mother should abandon her children for a guy. Children need their mothers, and there are plenty of men who want women who put their children first because these men understand how important their own mothers’ were in their lives and aren’t threatened by a mother’s responsibilities to her children. So that alone should be enough for you to walk away from this woman.
But if that’s not enough, the fact that she’s still connected and possibly dating and engaged to an abusive man who’s threatened you, too, should tell you that she’s got emotional baggage that is going to make it impossible for her to be in a peaceful and loving relationship any time soon. Are you ready for the check yet? It’s time to go!
Let this woman walk out of your life, and move on. But when you do, pause and try and figure out what it was about her that you were attracted to because that’s a place in [i]your [/i]life, where [i]you[/i] need to do some work.
You sound like you really understand what’s right and wrong, but there’s some part of you that wants to save wounded women. You have to understand that not all wounded women who appear to want to be saved, really want permanent saving. Some of them just like or are addicted to the drama of the saving. Then once they’re saved, they need another drama fix, and they start looking for the next place they can get that adrenaline and drama high.
My advice to you is to understand that you can’t save the world, or even some of the people who don’t want to be really saved, in it. But you sound like you have a lot to offer, so make sure you’re in a healthy relationship so that you can continue to be productive in your life. A healthy woman who wants a peaceful and happy relationship with you is going to make your life, alone and with her, an asset to yourself, each other, and the world.
