I have a crush on a guy and he has one on me as well, the only problem however is that he has a girlfriend. I have strong feelings for him and I am sure about them, he also proves himself in ways so that I know he does care about me. The thing is he and his gf have been together for quite some time now, and they been in constant fights because she has cheated on him on the past and lies constantly to him.
He and I are very close, we tell each other everything and we’re honest 100%. He tells me that he’s tired of all the drama, and that he wants to breakup with her, but it can’t be done instantly because that also hurts. I understand that completely because it IS hard to release of another when you’ve been through so much. He says that he wants to be with me….but his words could only go so far. He says this, and yet his actions say another.
It makes me feel as though he just wants to work things out and stay with her. He and I have talked about it all and I told him how his actions and everything makes me feel. He admits how things seems but still insists that I keep hope that soon there will be an “US”.
I’m holding on, I love him, but its hurting. I feel like the side chick, the other woman. I told him this as well. He wants me to ignore that and forget about his gf, even though in reality I do fall under that category. I don’t want to lose him.
For me, it hurts a lot, and I am being strong as I can because he isn’t mine. I am really trying to respect and acknowledge the fact that he is taken. I spoke to 2 people before. My brother, and he asked me why am I chasing after another girl’s bf. I tried to explain that she did him wrong and he didn’t want to hear it. He told me that, that’s what relationships are about, you have fights and difficulties and you try to resolve it. If he’s still there even though she did whatever, he has to really love her. The other person I spoke to was my dad, and he said similar things, also that the love is really strong depending on how long they’ve been together, and well in June it’ll be a year. Both my dad and I came to the understanding to why it is really hard for the guy to let go.
It all has me at a back and forth position with him, as in 1) I love him and I want to be there but I want to be [i]his[/i] girl and 2) Its all hurting and i don’t know what to do….if I should let him go…..but that’ll hurt as well and I don’t want to lose him.
What should I do?
