[herrc715]

Hi everyone. I can REALLY appreciate help. I’ve only had one boyfriend my entire life, so I’m brand new at this.

My ex-boyfriend of almost 9-months and I last month were feeling distant from each other and been feeling out of place. I decide that it was best that we should have space and some time apart to miss each other. Granted it was still very sad, but we both agreed to it and he said that he plans on us being together again. He also said that he still loved me and would be here to care for me no matter what.I call 2 weeks later to see how he’s doing and to tell him I miss him, and he totally BLOWS me OFF!! As I sobbed on the phone telling him that I miss him he says that he “doesn’t have a straight answer” on all that is happening and decides to hang-up to find his friend. Since than, he has not called or responded to any of my texts and since we work together, every time we would have the same shift he would get it covered to avoid me. This has been going on for a month. I just find it hard coming from a guy who said he wanted to marry me, and tell me I was his soulmate and the love of his life. I’m starting to think this whole relationship was a big joke to him.

Can anyone else please give me some insight on what they think on this situation? Or ideas on how to move on?

[Anonymous]

WOW, that stinks first of all and I am sorry you are going through that.

I’d have to say it’s obvious he has found someone else and is a coward making this big an effort to avoid you.

Find someone else to date ASAP to start getting over him.

Guys will say anything when they are happy getting laid, 9 months is not a long relationship, so I hope you can cope and get involved with someone new soon.

Good luck to you!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m not sure how old you are, but you don’t have a lot of experience in relationships and it’s usually a good idea to date a few men before getting engaged. What you’re going to learn is that actions speak louder than words. Whatever your boyfriend said was superseded by his actions.

Your decision to take a break 😯 because you were feeling distant after a nine month relationship was a mistake. If you feel distant, you should try to get closer, not further away. 😕 Like [b]badfinger[/b] wrote, he found someone else, and has moved on.

You’d do best to do the same. But this time, get my book called Think & Date Like A Man and read it. It will give you a lot of help and support in winning at dating. Here’s the link to buy the book: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url].

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