[Anonymous]

April,

About a week ago I went out on a “double date” to a bar with some mutual friends that were trying to hook me up with this girl. We got along well so I got her number and asked her out on a date. We went out a few days ago and we got along great and had great conversation. I know we got along great because we ended up going to a few different bars and got some drinks and had a lot of fun. She was flirtatious, asked me tons of questions, it seemed like she was totally interested. I didn’t really try to make any aggressive moves because it seemed things were going good and I didn’t want to do anything that would be considered too pushy. However, there was one point where she seemed cold so I asked her if she was cold as I put my arm around her and she said no I’m not cold! so I took my arm off her… Finally, I dropped her off and she told me how much fun she had again and I gave her a hug and then what seemed like on a whim she asked me to go to Canada with her on New Years eve with 2 of her friends! I was like really you’re inviting me? and she said yes…So I told her I wasnt sure.

Later on the wee hours of the early morning she texted me thanking me for a wonderful night and how she had so much fun…

I texted her saying I’ll talk to her tomorrow about a show we made plans to see and I’ll see you Tuesday.. because we were already planning to meet again with our mutual friends.

Then an hour later she texted me back to tell me to say hello to the cats for her that I have (which I told her about, that she never met) and sweet dreams..

Here I am thinking this girl seems really into me

Turns out the show was sold out so I told her and she thanked me for looking.

Yesterday afternoon I called her to see if she wanted to go for some dinner or something for tonight and she didn’t answer so I left a voicemail and I have yet to hear back from her.

So did I do something wrong? There’s no way she didn’t check her voicemail yet. I thought it would be an easy yes for a second date, now it seems like she’s politely telling me shes not interested. What could be going through her head? I just came out of a long relationship and this is the first date since so I need to know, did I screw up and if so where??

Thanks

[Anonymous]

Actually she jus texted me back saying she’s staying tonight because of the blizzard were having lol. She didn’t suggest an alternative date.. should I ask her when’s good?

[Anonymous]

turns out I just decided to text her back to let me know when she is free and still after 15 plus hours no response….

Again, am I doing something wrong? (do I look too needy or desperate)

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Yes, you are doing something wrong. You’re not allowing enough time between texts and dates. It’s unrealistic for you to think you did something wrong when you ask her for a date in 24 hours, and you don’t hear from her. Women want a man who is successful and confident, and your texting frequency is suggesting you don’t have anything else to do. 😮

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[Anonymous]

So you’re saying that it was wrong of me to ask for a date with not enough notice in advance or just too much conversation that soon after the date? It really seemed like this girl was interested, would it be worth trying to ask her out again and if so when? Thing is we share the same friends and I’m sure we will hang out again in a group setting. How should I act towards in this scenario???

Thanks April, and I’m pretty sure I will pick up a copy of your book. I could use the advice lol

[sensibleshoes]

I am female so do not ask people on dates, but I would say ask for a date for a week away, it makes it seem like you have planned it and not thought of it on the spur of the moment. Take it from someone whos done this, you don’t want to seem desperate.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

The book downloads automatically so you can read it tonight! Here’s the link: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url]. It will answer all your questions for you — and keep you from texting her too soon (because you’ll be reading, instead 😉 ).

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[Anonymous]

In this particular case do you think there is anything that I can do to make myself the prize again? I know I appeared too available but what can I do to negate this?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m happy to give you free advice, but when I suggest you buy a particular book it’s because I really think it’s going to help you, AND because it will help support the free advice I give to you and so many people on this site.

Please re-read my posts to you, get the book I suggested, Date Out of Your League, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url], and read it. Then come back to me if you still have questions. I think you’re going to find what you need in the book — in fact, I’m sure of it! 😉

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