I really appreciate your willingness to offer advice to those of us in such confusing relationship situations. I’m extraordinarily torn with my own internal battle, so I’m just going to lay it all out there as honestly as I can in the hopes that you can offer me some sound advice.
I’m in my mid-20s and female.
About a month and a half ago, I was meeting up with my parents and brother for a celebration. My brother also brought some of his friends. I hadn’t met these friends before, and prior to doing so, my parents gushed and bragged about one in particular. In fact, they seemed shocked I hadn’t met him or heard of him before then, since they had apparently known him for years and felt convinced we would be great together (my father REALLY wants this guy as a son-in-law). Ok, parental endorsement is nice, but I had to meet him. Everything was true – he was great. It’s odd for me since I’m very, very picky about men; I have seemingly impossible standards.
Two weekends later, he agreed to carpool with me to the countryside, as he had offered to help my parents with some of their manual labor there. More fun times were had as we spent the entire weekend there.
Another two weekends later, we went to a couple of sporting events and a movie. And a couple weeks after that, we went to a show/concert.
However:
He’s made no move on me. He’s never been the one to text me first, and he’s never been the one to invite me to do things (I invited him to all of the above – except when he asked if I wanted to grab a bite to eat after the recent show). He agrees to go with me to these things, and we have fun, so his lack of contact feels odd. It’s also odd because I know I’m attractive, smart, and I’m always the one beating guys off with a stick. I wonder if he’s concerned that I’m his friend’s sister, if he’s concerned because he knows there’s a great possibility that he’ll be moving a few hours away in a couple months, if he’s afraid of rejection, or if he truly just isn’t interested.
I don’t feel like I come on too strong; I only text him once every couple of weeks to invite him to do something, but I thought that my invitations would give him the hint that I like him. I’m wondering if I should just back off and stop inviting him out altogether, and wait to see if he ever takes the initiative. It’s difficult for me to just give up on this since I haven’t liked a guy this much in years, if ever. What do you think?
