[janaj1]

I met a guy bowling and we had flirted a few months. He asked for my phone number and he talked to me once and then he told me he has been involved with a gal for a few years. Teh relationship is not going anywhere. In the beginning he wanted more, but she said she never wanted to share a house with a man again and she likes the relationship as it is. He had settled for that and then he met me. He wants to get to know me more, but needs to end it with her as he feels he is cheatiing on her. He does not like to play the field and wants to do this the right way with her before we become more involved. He has co-signed with her son on a loan that he has to babysit each month to get the payment and so I am not sure if this is the issue or exactly what but he says he needs to do this his way. He has told me that if I want to date others until he has taken care of this then I should. I don’t want to as i am now emotionally involved her and don’t want to meet another guy when i am really not interested at this time. I am willing to wait for this guy to do the correct thing. We talk each day at least 3 times a day and we just connect. Shoudl I trust him?

[kikibrown22]

Seems to me that by telling you that he’s still with this girl and that it’s okay for you to date other people, that he’s trying to cover his own butt. Looks like he wants to keep both of you around, and this way he doesn’t feel guilty because you know about the other girl and he’s not pushing for exclusivity. I think a guy that was truly into you wouldn’t want you to be dating other guys, but that’s just me. I’ve had guys ask me to be the other girl, tell me they were on the ‘outs’ with their gf or that the relationship is rocky, that they’re on a break, etc. They’ll say whatever they think will get them what they want. If he’s seriously into you, then he’ll end things with this girl. Until then I wouldn’t get involved.

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