[sensibleshoes]

Hello, this looks like the place to get an educated opinion on my situation.
I am 52 and was introduced to this man last summer, hes somewhat known in our suburb, and I went to the local meeting place to find him (he speaks publicly there at times). I introduced myself, and gave him my number. Hes into politics so this was a good reason to give him my number. He was friendly and walked me home.
He called once but was busy with a death in the family. I then saw him two months later and walked over to where he was. he seemed very happy to see me and again walked me and my son home.
Each time he saw me out walking (he walked, didn’t have a car) he’d come across the street to talk with me. He got me a temporary job in May, which I needed as am unemployed. He is also not employed. Once he told me to meet him at the place where we were doing this work, and I didn’t make it in time and he’d left. Saw him there a few days later and told him I was sorry i didn’t make it and he said he missed me.
He does live with his mother and is 31 years old.
He calls once in a while. He tells me to call him, I tell him I don’t prefer that, as at times hes not home, my message doesn’t get through that I called. He said he needed to get a cell phone so he could get the messages.
Once I called him and told him I was going to the library, he showed up there right away, even though I go there all the time and hes never there.
Once he said if he gets a certain amount of money, he’d (do some project), take me to lunch..
He never comes on to me, but people have said thats cause my son is always around when we have been together (he can’t be left alone).
So I want your opinions. Thank you!

[Ask April Masini]

If a man wants to date you — he will! It sounds like he likes you, but isn’t interested in dating you. But my real advice is for you to choose someone who has a job and isn’t living with his mother. 😕 That kind of man will be more interested in investing in Ms. Right in a way that this guy can’t.

I hope that helps!

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[sensibleshoes]

Thank you for replying, you really do read all threads! A mans finances are not that important to me and this one I am in love with for the long haul.

[sensibleshoes]

After reading enough relationship books, and your threads, my idea is to casually see other guys (nothing serious as I like him only) and let him know. I think I need to be chased here.

[Ask April Masini]

Purposefully letting him know you’re dating other men may backfire — especially with a man who isn’t chasing you to begin with! 😳 The idea is to give him something to chase — not to discourage him by telling him you’ve got other suitors. You’re correct that you need to be chased, but your method won’t work. Try reading Think & Date Like A Man, so you understand HOW to get him to chase you without your chasing him away! 😮

I know you think that you’re not interested in a man’s finances, but they say more about a man than just what his net worth is — they show you his interest in settling down and fitting in. They show you his feelings of self esteem and self worth (men are different than women and their work is important to them in ways that it may not be to women). I’m not suggesting you become a gold digger, but I do think you need to look beyond your ideal of not being interested in his finances — they are a part of who he is at age 52, and if you want to love him, know all of him first!

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[sensibleshoes]

No, I am 52 and he is 31.

[Ask April Masini]

Sorry I mixed the ages up, but the principles still stand. A man who lives with his mother and doesn’t have a job at 31 isn’t as “ready” to be in a relationship as a man who has his own place and his own job or career from which he derives not just income, but a sense of self esteem and a place in the world — which is important to men in a different way than it is to women! 😉

[sensibleshoes]

Hm. So maybe he is interested in me, but isn’t going to do anything yet as he fels he has not enough to offer?

[Ask April Masini]

Yes. That could be one very viable scenario.

I hope you’ll read Think & Date Out of Your League: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. It will give you a better idea of how you can tell if a man is ready to be in a relationship.

[sensibleshoes]

I am looking forward to getting the book. From the excerpts I’ve read, it will help any woman or girl who is looking to win the dating game!

[Ask April Masini]

Great! Let me know what you think when you read it. You can download it automatically at this site: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url] or you can get it at the sites for Amazon or Barnes & Noble. It’s really a great resource for anyone who’s motivated to make their lives better — and I think that’s you! 😉

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[sensibleshoes]

Just wanted to update ya, he called me yesterday and I asked if he needed company. he said they can’t have anyone at his house becuase they don’t own it right now and his mum would get upset if something was missing.
So he said he could come over here. I said sure.
Well, he never called back.

[Ask April Masini]

Thanks! I hope you’ll also follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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