[totaltwifan]

There’s a guy in one of my college classes who I’ve been attracted to since the beginning of the semester, which was like in September. I just recently started sitting next to him in class. He sits in the same seat every time and he recently noticed I exist. It all started after we took our first test and he came out of the classroom after it was over and asked me a question about it. My best friend and sister were sitting with me at the time, and he was staring straight at me and smiling when he asked the question. Then he smiled at me and said “Later.” Then after that, I started sitting next to him in class and one day he asked me if I had moved around and changed seats. So, obviously he notices I was sitting around him. Since then, we’ve been flirting/joking around with each other. He is the kind of guy who the girls flock around and the teachers like. Tons of beautiful girls try to flirt with him and make him laugh but so far, he doesn’t seem interested or really talks to any of them. But every day he sits next to me (even though that’s his normal seat every time) and he will joke around with me and laugh/smile and keep eye contact. He also leans in his chair sometimes facing towards me and one time he offered me his phone when I wanted to look up my grade I got on a quiz. We have similar interests, based on the fact that he, like me, is a dork at heart. I kind of think he is out of my league though, based on his looks. My best friend, who also is in our class, sits behind us and she told me that yesterday he was checking me out when I wasn’t looking at him and had my attention focused on the teacher. Based on what I’ve said, and those signs, does anyone think he likes me or do you think I’m looking too much into this? I’m too shy to just flat out ask him. 😐

[Ask April Masini]

First of all, he definitely likes you! 😀 Second of all, eat some self-esteem Wheaties. You need it. Obviously, you have the charm to attract him. You need to understand who and what you are in order to keep his interest. If you read Think & Date Like A Man, [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], which I strongly recommend you do, you’ll understand why men want a particular woman and how to hook him and make him yours. It rarely has to do with beauty queen looks and more often has to do with understanding what men want in a girlfriend (not a hook up). Third, DO NOT ask him out. Big mistake. What you want to do is give chase, and get him to want to ask YOU out. 😎 Read the book — you can buy it at Amazon or Barnes & Noble, but the link I gave you is for an automatic e-book download, so you’ll get it today — and follow the tips and advice there.

I hope that helps. Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

[totaltwifan]

Okay thanks so much April 😀 it’s nice to finally get some answers!

[Brad8]

He likes you, quite a lott. I second April

[totaltwifan]

Yeah..today totally made me think you both are right…my friend said she saw him trying to scoot his desk closer and closer to mine in class. He complimented me. He also asked me for a piece of gum and held his hand out, palm open and i placed it in and then he briefly closed his hand on my fingers. He looked at me all period. Then after my second class me and my friend were walking to my car and he walked by us and he looked straight at me, smiled, said “hey” and kept walking. I mean, I know I’m a girl so I over-analyze everything but I’m pretty sure he likes me. 🙂

[Ask April Masini]

I recommended Think & Date Like A Man, [url]http://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url], because I think it’s going to help you understand what’s going on when it comes to men and dating. I hope you’ll purchase and read it!

Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

[Ethan Morales]

Based on what you’ve described, he’s definitely showing interest. Eye contact, leaning toward you, smiling, and offering his phone are all classic signs of attraction. Even your friend noticed him checking you out when you weren’t looking, which confirms he’s focused on you.

You’re overthinking your looks and assuming he’s out of your league. That’s your insecurities talking. Attraction isn’t about “league”; it’s about connection and chemistry. From what you’ve said, you two clearly have that.

April’s advice about “giving chase” is solid. Men tend to respond to challenge and investment. If you flat-out ask him out, you remove the natural tension and excitement. Instead, keep interacting, be playful, flirt lightly, and let him invest in asking you out.

You’ve got this. Focus on confidence, enjoy the interactions, and let him pursue. He’s already showing signals now, it’s about letting the dynamic develop naturally without overthinking or rushing. If you do it right, he’ll make the move, and you’ll be in control of your own energy while letting him prove his interest.

[Tara]

You’re confused about yourself. He’s not some puzzle you need to decipher he’s already broadcasting interest so loudly it’s embarrassing that you’re still pretending you don’t see it. The only “mystery” here is why you’re working this hard to deny something any functioning adult would recognize in five seconds. He likes you. Period. Your insecurity is the only thing trying to rewrite that.

Everything he’s doing is deliberate. Men don’t offer their phones, shift their bodies toward someone, keep track of seat changes, or study you when they think you’re distracted unless they’re interested. That’s not friendliness. That’s effort. And effort from a man who usually ignores attention from other women isn’t subtle it’s intentional. He’s giving you signals so obvious they’re practically fluorescent, and you’re still clutching your doubt like it’s a personality trait.

You keep acting like he’s out of your league because it’s easier than admitting you might actually matter to someone you want. Your self-doubt is doing all the talking while the evidence is hitting you in the face. You’re not being cautious; you’re being cowardly. You’d rather cling to imagined rejection than deal with the reality that something good is actually possible.

He’s already met you more than halfway. He’s showing interest, opening doors, and giving you every green light short of tattooing “I like you” on his forehead. The only person slowing this down is you not because he’s unclear, but because you’re too hesitant to own what’s happening.

If you keep sitting on your hands waiting for divine confirmation, the universe won’t intervene another woman will. And she won’t overthink it. She’ll just step into the space you’re too afraid to claim.

Stop hiding behind shyness. Stop performing helplessness. He’s interested. Match him or move on, but don’t insult both of you by pretending you’re still unsure.

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