[limegreenlover]

Long story short I met Dan in November ,We spent Xmas and xmas eve together & he asked me to his house for a NYE party. So NYE i got a call from my drunken friends who needed me to pick them up. I was on the phone when Dan walked in & introduced me to his best friends Tom & Ryan. I tried my best to be polite and say hello but i was taking on the phone trying to locate my friend at the same time so i was kinda ignoring them. The next morning i asked Ramon if we should stop seeing other people & his reply was “do you think that’s a good question after last night ” . I called him and thought we talked it out but i guess not because he stopped texting me as often. He didn’t ask to see me for a month.

So here we are at his house ,We talk about NYE and he expressed his anger and i apologized .Then out of the blue he showed me all his messages & said see i don’t talk to anyone else. I didn’t show mine .We then spent the night having a great conversation, in my option the best we’ve ever had. At the end of the night i tried to have sex but he told me since i had previously said i wanted to wait , he did too so the first time together would be special. we fell asleep during a good convo& i went home the next morning .
Well after that hedidn’t call or text me for a couple weeks. i texted him &he only replied a couple times .Fast forward to a week ago, he texts me saying hello , i reply, and he doesn’t ! Last night he texted my friend and i in a group message asking us to go see a show with him next week. We all were replying and somehow his friend Ryan(from NYE) got brought up & i said i still felt bad for being rude & Ramon said “good luck bouncing back he’s my bff”. THEN my friend said she was going to feel like a third wheel at the show with us and Ramon said ” Were all friends silly, no ones third wheeling, i’m going for the music” . I’m just confused? He previously told me he really liked me & tlked about our future together so why did he stop seeing me out of nowhere & now pops back up &says we’re friends !? I rlly like him a lot & hVw feelings and don’t know how to handle this .

[Ask April Masini]

Sounds like he was embarrassed and angry that he didn’t get your full and undivided attention when he introduced you to his two best friends to you at the New Year’s Eve party where you were on the telephone when he was making the introduction. This is really an etiquette issue — where if he’d seen you were on the phone and waited until you were off to introduce you, this friction wouldn’t have happened. Instead, he expected you to hang up and put him first. And, truth is you could have — but, with no judgment from me, you focused on the phone call. The bottom line is this didn’t have to be a big deal, and unfortunately, he’s still holding onto this three month old issue.

The other thing is that you’ve only known each other a few months — and this is the time when you learn about each other and decide if you want to date and continue seeing each other. I get the feeling you are uncomfortable with his taking this slow — not wanting to have sex yet, going out in a group, making “bounce back” comments about the New Year’s Eve event…. and he’s very sensitive — that combo can be the basis for drama.

My advice is that you take it slow and try to be upbeat. Don’t expect a commitment so soon, and don’t bring up the New Year’s Eve drama again. Let it go. He obviously likes you — but his relationship clock is ticking at a different rate than yours is. Respect his speed and be someone he wants to date — drama-free, fun, interesting, sexy. And let go of the “ick”. Focus on the positive.

[Val Unfiltered💋]

babe he’s just keeping you on the hook. 😩 all that “i like you / i see a future” talk was a vibe in the moment, but now he’s playing the cool friend card to dodge accountability. classic disappearing act with a “hey let’s hang” encore.🙄 you don’t owe him another round of mixed signals. stop decoding crumbs and start matching his energy instead. watch how fast he suddenly remembers your name. 💋

[Ethan Morales]

Here’s what’s happening: Dan clearly likes you he’s been inviting you to hang out, showing concern about the “third wheel” situation, and has talked about your future before. The problem isn’t that he lost interest; it’s that he’s sensitive, and the NYE incident hit him harder than it needed to. That’s why he pulled back for a bit.

What you can do: Let go of the past drama. Don’t bring up NYE again. It’s over, and rehashing it only keeps him on edge. Take it slow. He’s pacing the relationship differently than you are. Respect his pace he wants connection, but not pressure. Be upbeat and fun. Be someone he looks forward to being around. Keep interactions light, flirty, and interesting. Avoid guilt trips or overexplaining.

Focus on positive shared experiences. Go to the show, enjoy the music, the laughs, the time together. This strengthens your bond without forcing a commitment. Check your expectations. He’s not labeling things or moving quickly, so your attachment to immediate reassurance will only stress you. Let things unfold naturally.

he still likes you, but he’s processing on his own timetable. Your job is to be present, fun, and patient, not to chase or convince him. Over time, he’ll warm up more as he feels secure again.

[Marcus king]

It sounds like you and Dan had a real connection early on, but something shifted after New Year’s, and he’s been holding on to that night more than you realized. The moment you were on the phone might have felt small to you, but to him, it seems to have created doubt about where he stood with you and that doubt has been sitting in the background ever since.

When people get hurt or unsure, they sometimes pull back instead of talking it through. From what you’ve shared, he’s gone from being emotionally involved to trying to protect himself, which is why he’s suddenly using words like “friends” and playing things off casually. That doesn’t mean his feelings are gone—it just means he’s keeping distance so he doesn’t feel vulnerable again.

If you still like him and want clarity, it might help to just be open about it. Something like, “I’ve been a little confused lately. I really enjoy what we have, but I also feel like something changed after New Year’s. I just want to understand where you stand so I know how to move.” Keep it simple, calm, and honest.

Whether he says he’s still interested or just wants to be friends, at least you’ll know where you stand. That’s always better than waiting and wondering while he drifts in and out of your life.

[PassionSeeker]

Ugh, i feel this one deep. when a connection starts strong then fades into “we’re just friends,” it leaves you spinning. here’s the truth: dan’s mixed behavior isn’t about you doing something wrong it’s about him still holding on to that new year’s moment as proof that maybe you weren’t all in. it bruised his ego, and instead of talking it out properly, he went cold and started playing safe.

but here’s the thing if he really wanted to be with you, he wouldn’t be this inconsistent. people who want you make it clear. the group invites and flirty-but-unclear messages? that’s him keeping you in orbit, not stepping up.

you don’t need to chase clarity through guessing. if you still want to know, ask directly something gentle but firm like, “i’m not sure what we are anymore, but i’d rather know than keep wondering.” if he can’t give a real answer, take that silence as your closure.

protect your heart, babe. don’t wait around for half-effort love.

[Tara]

Stop pretending this is some romantic mystery. Dan didn’t “get confused,” he didn’t “need time,” he didn’t secretly want something deeper. He checked out, and you’re clinging to crumbs like they’re clues.

Here’s what actually happened: NYE gave him the perfect excuse to downgrade you. Not because what you did was unforgivable it wasn’t but because he was never that invested in the first place. Men who want you don’t disappear for a month over a phone call interruption. They don’t stop texting. They don’t suddenly shift you from “future talk” to “we’re all friends, silly.” That line alone should slap you awake.

And that cute moment where he showed you his messages? Please. That wasn’t transparency that was performance. A little “look how loyal I am” act he used to make himself look like the victim of your supposed disrespect. Meanwhile, you hid your messages, he didn’t care, and nothing changed. That tells you everything: he wanted the moral upper hand, not a relationship.

The night at his house? The “special first time” talk? That was emotional bait. If he meant any of it, he wouldn’t have ghosted immediately after. Men don’t ignore women they want to sleep with; they ignore women they’ve moved on from but still want the ego boost of keeping warm on the side.
And now he’s inviting you and your friend to a show in a group text because that’s exactly what you are to him now: part of the group. A friend. A seat filler. Not someone he’s dating.

[Sally]

When a guy pulls you close, then goes quiet, then pops back up acting friendly… it messes with your feelings fast. But here’s the part that’s hard to ignore: if he really wanted something real, he wouldn’t disappear for weeks at a time. He wouldn’t send mixed signals or invite you out in a group just to call you “friends.”

It sounds like he liked the attention, liked the vibe, but the minute things got a little messy on NYE, he pulled back and never fully came back in. That’s not on you — that’s him not knowing what he wants.

If it were me, I’d stop trying to decode him. A man who wants you doesn’t make you guess. He shows up.

[Natalie Noah]

I can see why you’re feeling so confused and conflicted about Ramon. From your perspective, you’ve experienced strong connection and even intimacy, yet his behavior feels inconsistent and puzzling. On his side, it sounds like the New Year’s Eve incident, you being on the phone while meeting his friends, triggered feelings of embarrassment or insecurity that he hasn’t fully let go of. That may have caused him to pull back, even though it was a minor moment, and it’s been lingering in his mind. It’s also possible that he’s sensitive about how he’s perceived by his friends, which amplifies the drama in his reactions.

Another layer here is timing and pace. You’ve been getting to know each other for only a few months, and you’re at a stage where emotions run high but commitments aren’t fully solidified. He seems to have a different rhythm than you do, wanting to go slow, taking his time with intimacy, and balancing group dynamics with friends. That doesn’t mean he doesn’t care about you, but it does mean that his attachment and comfort levels are unfolding at a different rate. It can feel frustrating when your emotional clock is ahead of his, but that’s a common issue early in dating.

The key takeaway is to let go of old tensions and focus on the present. The “bounce back” comments about New Year’s Eve and his retelling of messages are minor dramas that you don’t need to carry forward. What matters is how he acts now inviting you to go to a show, including you in his life socially, and maintaining contact. Take those as indicators of his interest, and don’t overanalyze past missteps or expect immediate clarity.

Lastly, your role in this is to stay grounded, fun, and confident. Show him the positive reasons to want to spend time with you interesting conversations, shared experiences, and mutual respect. Let go of the “what does it mean?” anxiety, and instead enjoy the moments together. His pace is his own, and if you maintain your upbeat, drama-free approach, it’s far more likely he’ll feel comfortable deepening the connection naturally.

[KeishaMartin]

It’s like a slow-burn romance cocktail, and you’re holding the glass. From NYE drama to ghosting vibes, Dan’s mixed signals are giving you heart flutters and confusion by the gallon. April Masini, with her razor-sharp clarity and spicy, no-nonsense wisdom, would tell you straight up: he’s hurt his ego, he’s sensitive, and now he’s tiptoeing around because he still wants you without diving into full-on commitment. That lingering frustration from NYE? Forget it. It’s old news, a deliciously forgotten scuffle in the past. What matters is the chemistry, the teasing tension, and the undeniable pull he still feels for you, keep it hot, fun, and drama-free.

Stop chasing explanations and let the sparks fly where they are. Be flirtatious, playful, sexy, remind him why he liked you in the first place. His “friends first, music first” comments are just him testing boundaries, seeing if you’re still fun and intriguing. Ride this wave, let the heat build, and let him chase you a little; that’s the secret sauce. April Masini would wink and remind you: confidence, tease, and mystery are irresistible. And this Happy New Year, 2026, may your champagne be chilled, the music thumping, and the parties electric full of teasing glances, playful touches, and intoxicating fun. Life’s too short for confusion own the fire, girl, and let Dan feel it.

Happy New Year, 2026,

[Member]

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