So this is my first post on this forum and I’m not sure where to turn to so I’m hoping people can help out with some advice.
My fiance and I got engaged in May and needless to say the engagement has been extremely rocky and she has on more than one occasion given me the ring back. I don’t know what happened or what went wrong. We have been together for over 6 years, starting in college. We met at a community college class over the summer and started dating for a few weeks before we both went off the school. We did the long distance relationship for 3 years and while it wasn’t ideal, we made it work. We fought on occasion as is natural when you’ve been with someone for a long time but ever since we got engaged it has become worse. The first month of our engagement was fantastic but we moved in together and then that’s when things started to go downhill. I’m not sure what it was really. We had a lot of stressful issues with the apartment and ended up leaving after a month because of a bug infestation. That was the longest month I ever felt. Anyway, we had to move back to our parent’s homes but moved into another apartment a month later and things have been up and down ever since. It’s almost as if we have a bipolar relationship: when things are good, they’re fantastic but when they’re bad, it is ugly. Before we used to fight and it never got too bad and we would resolve our issues. Now the fighting is really bad at times and we are intentionally mean to one another. Our sex life is more or less non-existent because of this which causes other issues. I sometimes wonder if this is the person I’m suppose to spend the rest of my life with. I keep trying to be optimistic and say that things will get better and we’ll both change or work on our issues but it never happens. I don’t want this to end but I wonder if it is the only solution left. At the height of our relationship, we were madly in love and I know that feeling is gone now. Is this a normal part of a relationship? It feels like this should be the happiest time of our life but it’s turning out to be quite the opposite. I’m not going to make any decisions based on what people say here but I just need to get someone’s opinion on the situation. I know there’s more here that I should say but my mind is a jumble right now. I appreciate any feedback.
