[Anonymous]

Dear April, Me and my best friend have been friends ever since we were little we met in 1st grade and have been friends ever since, but now I am rethinking the whole friendship because A guy I was going out with and just broke up with with that treated me really bad and broke my heart is now talking to her they weren’t friends before we started dating and they weren’t friends while we were dating so why are they friends now?I have told her how I feel a million times , but she told me i don’t know why I can’t be his friend , but still be your best friend , and she told me she liked him a little even though she has never met him , and I thought she would care about our friendship more.I just don’t understand why he picked my best friend out of all the girls in the world to be friends with and why she is letting him be her friend even though she knows how I feel.It seems like he is trying to break up our friendship or something and I don’t know why! I am not trying to control who she talks to I just told her how I felt , and she doesn’t seem to care. what should I do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re right. It’s time to re-think your long time best friendship. Both your ex-boyfriend and your best friend are looking out for their own best interests and ignoring yours. While you can’t control them, you can decide to be happier and healthier by letting go and finding a new best friend! You need a best friend in your life who is mature enough to understand that she can’t be your ex-boyfriend’s friend and like him, too — without hurting you deeply. She doesn’t get it. Find someone who does.

I hope that helps!

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[Anonymous]

Dear, April I also just found out that my best friend went on a date with my ex right after we broke up! , and I am very hurt! I told her I don’t want anything to do with her anymore! did I do the right thing? I am very hurt by this since we have been friends so long! It feels like my ex has won in breaking up our friendship though.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You definitely did the right thing. But listen — your ex didn’t “win” by breaking up your friendship. In fact, he did you a favor by shedding light on the true character of your best friend. She wasn’t looking out for you at all. She wasn’t very honest. And she was hurtful in choosing to date your ex-boyfriend so soon after your break up. I’d say he did you a favor. Now use this time to clean your social slate and start looking for people with better character and values to be in your life. You’ll have a lot better life if you do!

I hope that helps – and good luck. 🙂 Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter. 😉

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