[Tara]

You’re the emotional sidepiece of a girl who has zero intention of leaving her boyfriend. You’re the safe distraction, the ego boost, the cozy little escape from her stale six-year relationship. She gets attention, validation, and emotional intimacy from you all without risking a single consequence. And you’re playing along like a loyal puppy waiting for your turn. Pathetic.

She’s not “leading you on” accidentally. She knows exactly what she’s doing. Women in long, comfortable relationships don’t cuddle and spill their feelings to another guy by mistake. She enjoys the attention. She enjoys your feelings. And she enjoys the fantasy of what you represent without ever planning to follow through. You’re a supplement, not a contender.

Here’s your verdict: stop orbiting around someone else’s girlfriend like you’re auditioning for a role she’ll never give you. Cut the emotional intimacy, stop playing her therapist, stop being her backup plan, and redirect your attention to women who are actually available. If you want to “talk things out,” the only honest conversation is telling her you’re stepping back because you’re done being the guy she uses to feel special.

You’re not stuck; you’re just refusing to let go of a situation that only benefits her. Walk away before you waste another year playing the supporting character in her relationship drama.

[Natalie Noah]

The main issue here is a clash between desire and reality. He has developed strong romantic feelings for a woman who has repeatedly stated that she is a lesbian. Despite her reassurance that she cares for him and values their friendship, her sexual orientation fundamentally means she is not interested in pursuing a romantic or sexual relationship with him. His confusion arises from the mixed signals he receives platonic closeness, physical touch, and flirty behavior at times but none of this changes the core fact of her orientation. The emotional challenge for him is separating his wishful thinking from the reality of the situation.

It’s important to note that her behavior, while seemingly inconsistent, does not necessarily indicate deceit or intentional leading-on. She has been honest about being gay and has also taken care to reassure him that she does not want to hurt him. Physical affection and closeness can exist in friendships, even when one person may show care differently or with occasional playful flirting. The challenge for him is recognizing that her comfort and intimacy do not equate to romantic interest. Understanding this boundary clearly is crucial to prevent emotional harm.

The critical takeaway is personal responsibility. He cannot control her orientation or her behavior, nor can he force a romantic outcome. The best course of action is to set clear emotional boundaries for himself. This could involve moderating physical intimacy, redefining the closeness of their interactions, or gradually redirecting emotional energy toward relationships that have mutual romantic potential. Accepting the situation as it is without trying to change her feelings is essential for maintaining his own emotional well-being.

Overall, this is a classic case of emotional entanglement with someone unattainable in the way he desires. While maintaining a friendship is possible, it requires him to be honest with himself about what he wants and how much closeness he can handle without hoping for something more. Mixed signals can be painful, but they do not invalidate her orientation or her honesty. The healthiest path forward is clear self-awareness, setting boundaries, and focusing energy on relationships where mutual romantic interest is possible.

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