[Anonymous]

my ex and i broke up a while ago and he keeps saying he wants to go out with me again. how? how do you go out with someone who broke your heart? i still love him deeply, and its only been 7 months, we went out for 5 years and broke up cause he needed to get his life sorted out. how do i get back together with him? please tell me how even if you dont approve. and do you think this is a good idea or no? he is 24 and i am 23

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I think you feel used by him and that’s why you’re so loathe to date him again. You gave him a five year commitment and then he broke up with you and now only seven months later, he’s ready to give it a go again as if those five years together weren’t sacred to him the way they were to you. I get it.

However….YOU have responsibility in the relationship to take care of yourself and not put yourself in harm’s way. Not every man wants the same thing that you do and it’s your responsibility to know what you want and only date men who are compatible and want the same thing. If you know what you want in a relationship right this second and you don’t think he’s compatible with you any more, then your answer is not to date him right now. If you feel like you’ll regret saying no at getting back together than reconsider a reunion.

It would help to know why you two broke up and what you think has changed that would make getting back together different for you this time around.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go and please join me on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[Anonymous]

Why we broke up is cause when he went back home he found out a bunch of things. Like his friend recently passes away. His family pretty much split in half due to something someone said. His mom lost her job and needed help supporting herself. And some other things. So we didnt end it on bad terms. It just wasn’t a good time.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I don’t understand how his best friend passing away made him break up with you. 😕 How does the death of his friend have to do with his breaking up with you? I also don’t understand how his mother losing her job and then needing help financially and his offering that help contributed to his breaking up with you. 🙄 Why couldn’t he help his mom and still be in a relationship with you?

If you didn’t end on bad terms, then why are you concerned about getting back together again?

Something isn’t adding up. ❓ You wrote that he broke your heart by breaking up with you, but now you’re justifying his reasons for the break up and saying it wasn’t a bad break up, and that in fact, he had good reasons to break up with you.

What’s really going on here?

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