We are both in our mid 40’s, living togther with children from other marriages. We’ve been in a relationship for about 3 years. We met when we were both separated, my divorce went through, she never filed for divorce and her husband just died of cancer. It started as a long distance relationship, then she moved to my town for a year, then she moved away for about a year cause the husband had cancer. Then recently she moved in with me with her kids.
She did not tell her husband she was dating me for about a year, did not tell her kids about me for six months. And thoughout the relationship I sometimes felt like the other man and a secret, eventhough I live with her and her kids.
He just died and, of course, I cannot come to the funeral or visit her and her kids during this time. [b]She is on Facebook professing her undieing love for him and how there is a hole in her heart that can never be mended and that he was her very best friend and she was his loving wife. [/b] Plus, each day she seems to slip further away from me, not answering my calls, short in conversation, etc. Plus, I do not know when she is coming back, if at all. She says she is coming back, but no date yet.
I feel hurt because of how she is making me feel and for what she wrote on Facebook for everyone and me to see. If she truly did love him dearly, then why was she with me? If she did not mean what she wrote, then she is lying to me and others on her Facebook which makes me wonder what else is she lying about and hiding from me. What should I do?
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