[mr. ace]

Ok, so here’s the story I’m 19 and my girlfriend is 18, we’ve been together for 6 months now. Everything is great, we love each other very much, meet every single day, and we never get tired of each other, we got to know each other really well in the time we’ve been together, she tells me each day how much she loves me, and we take care of each other, and always help each other and listen to each other, everything in this part of the relationship is very good. Now the problem is, that she doesn’t like sex, she says that just kissing and cuddling is enough for her. It’s not quite the same with me. I am attracted to her very much, she is very beautiful and has very hot body, well, we do have sex, but it’s only like 2-3 times a month or so, which is too little for me at least. I tried talking to her about it, and whenever I bring it up she says that I’m demanding it from her, and she just doesn’t want to do it, that all. Now whenever I mention anything about it she gets really defensive, and says it’s all I care about.. She even wanted to dump me because of this. Now we are together and it’s the same, nothing is changing, I don’t talk about it because I fear that she will leave me. I’m really frustrated. Being very attracted to her, and cannot do anything about it. Now whenever I get the urge I just masturbate, to not to say anything to her and just be calm. I dont know what to do really.. I know this is not normal but there is no way of talking about it with her normally..
what should I do ?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Sometimes talking isn’t the solution. It seems like if you just start to talk about this subject, she’s going to tense up, knowing what you’re going to say and want, and knowing her own position on things.

Instead, take a different approach. See if you can seduce her instead of analyzing her. I’ve written a book called Romantic Date Ideas that lay out dates that you can create that are designed to get her in the mood. For women, wanting to have sex is a different process than for men, and setting the scene and not pressuring her, but at the same time, making her feel desirable, are all part of what you can do to enhance her process. Check out the book — you can get it at this link: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/romantic-date-ideas.html[/url].

And let me know how things go. I hope this helps!

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