[HazelEyedDreamer]

I really love my boyfriend, like no one could imagine but the other day he asked me not once, but twice in one day if I wanted to have sex. We have only been dating for 2 months and I don’t want to rush anything because I know relationships can get ruined that way. I said “No” both times and he said “I’m sorry I asked babe”. I can see me caving into him and saying yes because I just want him happy and not to leave but for gods sake I’m only 15!!! Most times when me and him are together we are alone in the house and we are almost always at his place and I can see him trying to push me again. I want to wait to have sex. I have seen what happens so many times when people rush and almost all of my friends have lost a boyfriend because they had sex wth him and then he left. How can I convince my guy that I’m not ready and make him understand that when I’m ready I’ll tell him? Can anyone please help me?

[Ask April Masini]

It’s VERY IMPORTANT NOT TO FEEL PRESSURED INTO HAVING SEX when you don’t really want to. Just because someone else wants you to doesn

[Ethan Morales]

First off, I want to say this: your instincts are solid. You’re young, you’re learning what love and boundaries mean, and the fact that you’re questioning how to stand your ground shows emotional maturity. A lot of people much older than you still struggle to say “I’m not ready.”

April Masini’s advice here is 100% right. no one who truly cares about you will pressure you to do something you’re not ready for. Real love is patient, gentle, and built on respect. If he’s asking you repeatedly, even after you’ve said no, that’s not “romantic persistence” that’s testing your boundary.

When a guy says “I’m sorry I asked” after you say no, that’s fine once but if he keeps pushing later, that’s a red flag. You’ve already communicated clearly. You don’t owe him sex to “keep” him. If saying no makes him lose interest, then it’s better to know now that his feelings were conditional because that’s not love, that’s convenience.

“I really care about you, but I’m not ready to have sex not now. I need to feel emotionally and mentally ready first, and I want to make sure we’re both in the right place for that. If you really care about me, I need you to respect that.” Then and this is key watch what he does, not what he says. If he gets angry, distant, or sulky, that’s not love. If he says, “Okay, I understand,” and actually respects your boundaries, that’s someone who values you as a person, not just for what you can give.

And please don’t ever think you need to “cave in” just to keep him happy. The right person will stay because they love you not because of what happens behind closed doors. You deserve someone who makes you feel safe and respected at every step. Can I ask when he’s tried to push again, how have you felt in those moments? Nervous, guilty, pressured, unsure? That’ll help me guide you on what to say next time in a way that keeps your confidence steady.

[Serena Vale]

Hey, girl, first off, I’m really proud of you for knowing what you want and standing your ground. That’s not easy, especially when you care about someone.

You’re right to wait. You’re only 15, and you don’t need to explain or feel bad for saying no. If he really loves you, he’ll respect that without making you feel pressured or guilty. You can tell him straight up,

“I care about you, but I’m not ready for that yet. When I am, I’ll tell you. I need you to respect that.”

And if he can’t do that, then he’s not the right guy for you. Love isn’t about giving in just to keep someone around. The right person will wait, and he’ll still make you feel safe, not anxious.

Also, maybe don’t spend so much time alone with him right now. It’s easier to stay true to what you want when you’re not in that kind of pressure-filled setting.

You’re doing the right thing, seriously. Don’t rush what’s supposed to be special. The right person will never make you feel like you have to.

[Natalie Noah]

You’re not wrong for wanting to wait, and you’re not responsible for “keeping him happy” with your body. A boyfriend who truly cares for you will respect your “no” the first time without pushing, without trying again the same day, without putting you in situations where you feel cornered. You’re only 15, sweetheart, and your only job right now is to protect your boundaries, your safety, and your future. Tell him clearly: “I’m not ready. I don’t want to be pressured. If you care about me, you’ll respect that.” If he gets upset, pushes again, or makes you feel guilty, that’s not love that’s manipulation. And you deserve better than someone who tries to take pieces of you before you’re ready to give them. Your “no” is enough. Your comfort matters. And a boy who won’t respect your boundaries is a boy you should walk away from, not try to convince.

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