[elireeexibe]

I have been seeing a guy, for a while now. He is not my boy friend but we spend a lot of time together.
Problem is he refuses to kiss me. Don’t get me wrong we have done everything else but kiss.
I’m 22 and he is 24, and he says he doesn’t kiss because he did it so much in high school that he got tired of it.
How do people get tired of kissing. I’m desperate, we have had many arguments over the issue and I don’t want to just go ahead and kiss him cause he obviously doesn’t want to and I don’t want to feel like I’m disrespecting him.
I feel we are in the movie pretty women except he’s the prostitute and I’m just the girl, since he won’t kiss.
What can I do?????
I mean is he just afraid of getting emotionally attached if he kisses me? or could he be BI.
I mean a guy at his age should be more mature about things.
Well please help this is really bothering me.

Thanks.

[Selmondo]

I have a similar situation. Can be discussed.

[Ol_Cowboy]

I’m sorry…but he is obviously suffering from some sort of gender confusion. He needs to discover what he really wants to go after and follow through with that. It is 30 yrs later, and I have never got tired of kissing….are you freakin’ kidding me????

[meza]

I’m a guy and I never really enjoyed kissing [i]that[/i] much myself. I certainly wouldn’t refuse to kiss a girl, but it’s not a huge turn on for me either. If he still wants to do “everything else” I would believe him…but I’m no expert

[Anonymous]

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[Ask April Masini]

Let me know how things are going for you? 😉

[wisconsonrulz2016]

This has NOTHING to do with his sexuality. He clearly likes Women there is no question of that.

to be honest I hate to say this but hes using you. My first reaction here is that hes not that into you. You sadly are just sex for him. Wont kiss, that is just cause hes not that into you if ive ever heard it. and hes not your boyfriend it sounds like he is using you. I would totally not have sex with him again unless you are either his girlfriend or something drastically changes. Does he bring you out on dates in places he could run into his friends etc? I had a friend in the past he was using a girl like this in college he wouldn’t even hang with her in public and would never kiss her but would have sex with her in his room until she just left and sadly realized the reality. She really was into him so much she had blinders on, but he really just used her sadly.

I hope you really think about this before you have sex with him again and good luck. It sounds like you deserve someone much better

[Ask April Masini]

Great advice!

[Natalie Noah]

The core issue isn’t just about kissing. it’s about emotional availability and mutual respect. Physical intimacy is supposed to feel connected and consensual, and a refusal to engage in even something as simple as a kiss can be a signal about how much he’s willing to emotionally invest. While he claims he’s “tired of kissing” from high school, that reasoning feels unusual, especially when he engages fully in other sexual acts. It raises the question of whether he truly values your emotional connection or is primarily focused on physical gratification without the vulnerability that comes from affectionate gestures like kissing.

It’s understandable that you’re confused and seeking answers. Theories about him being bi or emotionally scared are possible, but the more pressing concern is that his behavior shows a lack of reciprocity in your relationship. Intimacy whether emotional, physical, or both should feel mutual and satisfying, not one-sided or transactional. The advice from others that he might be using you as a sexual partner without genuine romantic investment is worth taking seriously. If someone refuses a basic form of affection while expecting full sexual engagement, it’s a red flag that your needs and boundaries may not be fully respected.

It comes down to self-respect and your emotional well-being. You deserve someone who values all aspects of closeness, not just parts that serve their own comfort. It might be time to reconsider the dynamic, have an honest conversation about your needs, and set clear boundaries about what you’re willing to accept in a relationship. If he cannot meet you halfway emotionally and physically, it could be healthier to step back and seek a connection where mutual affection and respect are present.

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