[Ngimwa]

My girlfriend and I have an awesome relationship and we talk about everything… We have talked about our sexual pasts cause we saw it better to get it over and done with and was surprised cause it wasn’t as bad as I expected it to be…and we even would make fun of each other about it and it was all okay…
Anyway today she told me about something that basically brought me here… She told me that she once met someone and they hooked up and she had never met him before…nothing…they were total strangers no names no nothing…she just started it….and I feel weird when I think of it.. Am not jealous cause there’s nothing to be jealous of…I think I just see her different now….or something all I know is it doesn’t sit well with me….

can anyone help me figure out what’s wrong and how to deal with whatever it is I might be feeling…

[danielbrown]

Hey friend
I know, April will give you the best answer but I personally feel that Yes?? After knowing such things anyone can get disturb just give some time to yourself. She had told you everything that she has gone through then trust her. If she really worth for you then don?? worry, give time to your relationship everything will be ok.

[danielbrown]

Hey friend
I know, April will give you the best answer but I personally feel that Yes…. After knowing such things anyone can get disturb just give some time to yourself. She had told you everything that she has gone through then trust her. If she really worth for you then don’t worry, give time to your relationship everything will be ok.

[kaivethmouse]

I agree with the above poster! Just give yourself time to digest that. It’s not that bad if it only happened once, and it was before /you/. So take it as it is: her being honest about herself because she wants to be open with you 🙂

[kaivethmouse]

I agree with the above poster! Just give yourself time to digest that. It’s not that bad if it only happened once, and it was before /you/. So take it as it is: her being honest about herself because she wants to be open with you 🙂

[Ask April Masini]

I’m not sure how long the two of you have been dating, but dating is a process that allows two people to get to know each other, and it sounds like you got to know something new about her that recreates the picture you have of her. You’re now adjusting to this new piece of information that doesn’t jive with the person you thought she was. Give yourself time to figure out who she is, and what this means. Also think about when this happened — if it was recently, meaning it’s more a part of who she is now than it might be if it happened ten or more years ago at a time when she was experimenting or making mistakes that she’s learned from or corrected. Also consider that she is telling you this because she wants you to know everything about her. It must have taken some courage for her to tell you, and it gives you an opportunity to decide how important it is to you and that she’s more layered and complex than you thought. 😉

Hope that helps.

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[Ask April Masini]

I’m not sure how long the two of you have been dating, but dating is a process that allows two people to get to know each other, and it sounds like you got to know something new about her that recreates the picture you have of her. You’re now adjusting to this new piece of information that doesn’t jive with the person you thought she was. Give yourself time to figure out who she is, and what this means. Also think about when this happened — if it was recently, meaning it’s more a part of who she is now than it might be if it happened ten or more years ago at a time when she was experimenting or making mistakes that she’s learned from or corrected. Also consider that she is telling you this because she wants you to know everything about her. It must have taken some courage for her to tell you, and it gives you an opportunity to decide how important it is to you and that she’s more layered and complex than you thought. 😉

Hope that helps.

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[Ngimwa]

thanks…man now its alot easier to take in and i am startin to relax.. i love her and ill just take it easy and am sure itll be okay…
Thanks alot though..at the moment it felt like my world was crumbling…

[Ngimwa]

thanks…man now its alot easier to take in and i am startin to relax.. i love her and ill just take it easy and am sure itll be okay…
Thanks alot though..at the moment it felt like my world was crumbling…

[Ask April Masini]

You’re very welcome!

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[Ngimwa]

Hey… So brief history.. I got an
accident 2 years ago. This mishap left
me in a wheelchair(Become a
paraplegic). During the first year after
my accident got a girlfriend and she’s
awesome. We have had a few bumps in the road but we always find a way to deal like every other relationship.
So I recently joined a sexual rehabilitation
thing.. Before jumping into it my doctor asked me to read about to get a rough idea then we would discuss.. I found this site and I forwarded the site to my
girlfriend (not sure that was a good
Idea but figured she should know)…
After she read it….
She was acting a bit funny so I asked her to tell me what she thinks.. She started crying and she said she felt selfish cause she thinking about herself, at one point she wanted a break, she said that she was okay sacrificing everything else but she never thought she’d have to do the same about kids but she felt bad and wished we could go back to before I feel in love with her and we won’t be
able to do what normal couples do…
then she just said that it’s okay… She’s didn’t wanna break and she can’t leave
cause is not fair to me… Then she said people find love very few times and
she loves me and she’s happy….
(Sorry if the conversation isn’t clear she was crying so couldnt hear everything and didn’t want to interrupt)…..
And it’s like she okay now but I don’t know if she’s happy… I love her and I
never believed in that if you love her
set her free but right now is making a
bit of sense. I know she loves kids and she wants to have some of her own. But I can try and get better but it’s not in my hands.. I want her to be happy and she’s been telling me that she is but I would hate for her to feel trapped. I would hate if she ends up unhappy in the long run. I don’t know what to do?

[Ngimwa]

Hey… So brief history.. I got an
accident 2 years ago. This mishap left
me in a wheelchair(Become a
paraplegic). During the first year after
my accident got a girlfriend and she’s
awesome. We have had a few bumps in the road but we always find a way to deal like every other relationship.
So I recently joined a sexual rehabilitation
thing.. Before jumping into it my doctor asked me to read about to get a rough idea then we would discuss.. I found this site and I forwarded the site to my
girlfriend (not sure that was a good
Idea but figured she should know)…
After she read it….
She was acting a bit funny so I asked her to tell me what she thinks.. She started crying and she said she felt selfish cause she thinking about herself, at one point she wanted a break, she said that she was okay sacrificing everything else but she never thought she’d have to do the same about kids but she felt bad and wished we could go back to before I feel in love with her and we won’t be
able to do what normal couples do…
then she just said that it’s okay… She’s didn’t wanna break and she can’t leave
cause is not fair to me… Then she said people find love very few times and
she loves me and she’s happy….
(Sorry if the conversation isn’t clear she was crying so couldnt hear everything and didn’t want to interrupt)…..
And it’s like she okay now but I don’t know if she’s happy… I love her and I
never believed in that if you love her
set her free but right now is making a
bit of sense. I know she loves kids and she wants to have some of her own. But I can try and get better but it’s not in my hands.. I want her to be happy and she’s been telling me that she is but I would hate for her to feel trapped. I would hate if she ends up unhappy in the long run. I don’t know what to do?

[Ask April Masini]

Help me out with some details so I can give you better advice. 😉

How old are you both?

What kind of sexual rehabilitation are you getting or do you think you need?

Is one of the problems you’re having with her is that you’ve just told her you can’t have kids?

Let me know and help fill in the blanks for me, and I’ll write back. 🙂

[Ask April Masini]

Help me out with some details so I can give you better advice. 😉

How old are you both?

What kind of sexual rehabilitation are you getting or do you think you need?

Is one of the problems you’re having with her is that you’ve just told her you can’t have kids?

Let me know and help fill in the blanks for me, and I’ll write back. 🙂

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