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Heloo this gunna be a long story very annoying to!.

Ive been dating this girl for around 2 months now im 23 shes 20 we live about 3 miles apart so nothing in it really , We started talking for about a week before we met up i new who she was for a few years anyway just not close or anything in that way just sumone if i seen would say hi.

Problem i got is from sunday to thursday we txt now and again and speak on the fone for about 30minutes every other day but not always then i always end up staying at hers friday and saturday night she picks me up then drops me home in the morning before work (she works 6 days a week).

This is where i get confused i always seem to do all the effort ask to see her do things eg and i get the same reply all the time “see what im doin first” and shes told me her mates come first , wer really great with eachother when wer together and ino wer only friends but still its kinda a hard place to be in. But what shall i do about this as atm i feel like when she hasnt got anything else better to do or if shes bord she rings me or asks me to come stay down hers.

Im not clingy or needy was only last weekend she went out with her mates i went out with mine and she seen me socailaizing with another girl in a freindly way(i dont drink) in a nightclub then gives m S~%t!! for it big time saying all ive done all night is speak to girls and shes already admited she gets jelous very easy and that.

The sex is great we seem to do it all the time but we do cuddle up and have a good night besides that and she nows how i feel about her and shes already told me the same towards me , go back about 6 weeks ago she said she wanted to just be friends because her head was in the wrong place and she didnt no what she wanted as to prior meeting me about 2 months before she was getting crap from a boyfriend was only with him 2 weeks then i gave her space and agreed it wer never gunna work if you felt like this. few days past she rings me saying shes sorry and it aint want she wants so we gave it another go and this is where we are.

Ino she cares about me and sees me more than just a friend its my birthday next week so im thinking if she wer to nock me off shed have done it already to save a few pennies right? (problem jinxed this now!)

Shes a lovely girl just gets really annoying over the slightest things at times for no apparent reason.

I just dont no what to do from here seems to ring me when it suits her and never makes the first move unless its her only option.
Wouldnt say shes got me under the thumb but i do try hard to make her happy and make plans with her.

She goes out most weekends fri/sat so yea when i do spend time with her it isnt for long i suppose . and a bootay call did cross my mind or bein used but then i thought would she go through all this effort just for the sex i think not.

And you cant use work as an excuse as when she goes out she has work the next day anyway and i stay there so this shouldnt be a problem right?

Its more of the situation im in is she doesnt plan anything she may ring me 1st but if its to spend time with me its alwyas me trying to make it happen.

So help much appreciated of what you think i should do?

[Ask April Masini]

The problem is that you’re not taking the lead. You’re letting her take the lead. 😳 If you want to date her, then ask her out on a date, and if she agrees, take her out — if she doesn’t, then you’ll know she’s not interested. You’re focusing on one person who’s not all that interested.

I think you should read Date Out Of Your League, a book I wrote for men who want to win with women. It’s going to help you a lot. You can buy it here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/dating-advice-books.html[/url]. 🙂

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[Lynette59]

You’re letting her run things! Bottom line, if you want to be her man act like the man. She needs a guy who knows he doesn’t need to wait around for anyone “this will make her think… Hmm he must have something to offer” confidence in a man is attractive. Don’t wait for her to make plans last minute, make your own plans, unless it is agreed your doing something together well in advance. Also why does she do the driving and picking up “you’ll definately lose points for this on”

[Missladyt_17]

Yes…..You are letting her call all the shots. You are getting all these signs as to her attitude and you see the red flags yet you still head down the same path. Since you both have expressed your feelings for one another. I would have a talk with her and tell her the truth. It seems like you only spend time with me because you are bored, you go out every weekend, just tell her.

Then what you need to do is stop waiting around and make your own plans. If you ask her on a date, pick her up and go on a date, if she has other plans then you make other plans as well, but if she cares for you as you say then it seems that she would be spending most of her time with you.

I think you already know where this is headed. The question is: What are you going to do about it? Stay and keep things as they are or start living your own life and stop being the yes man.

[Ask April Masini]

Happy New Year! Let me know how things are going for you. 😉

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