[pennystarpop]

ok so summer 2010 i went on holiday to bangladesh and well in that country boyfriends girlfriends at a young age is like a taboo thing it just doesn’t happen and especially if your a muslim which i an BTw anyway so i met this guy he’s an orphan poor and probably lives somewhere different everyday so in order to see him i had to sneak away from my parents and when i did i kissed him well snogged him he said all these things to me and i was so speechless he was amazing. so the next day i was out on the balcony and i saw him he talked to me for a while then asked if i would runaway with him but i said no but i can’t quite understand why now its 2012 and i can’t forget him i haven’t even had crush on a boy since i still cry to sleep i can’t ask my parents for advice because they’d disown me which isn’t an overreaction but more of and understatement 😥

[Ask April Masini]

The boy you met on holiday was more of a fantasy than a reality, and that’s why he’s stuck in your mind. If you want to hold onto that fantasy, it should be pretty easy to do so because you know so little about him and you had such a short experience with him. It’s a lot like seeing a movie and thinking that you know the movie star because the two hour movie was such an intense experience for you, but in real life, you know very little or even nothing about that movie star. That’s why so many people have crushes on movie stars that don’t know in real life at all. 😉

My advice is to become more involved in your real life and your fantasy life will fade into the background as you replace distant memories with new experiences.

I hope that helps.

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[pennystarpop]

thanks for the i advice but personally i think he was more than a fantasy

[Ask April Masini]

I understand.

[Lune David]

Whew this is giving summer-movie romance meets reality check. One stolen kiss, a balcony moment, and suddenly it’s 10+ years of emotional damage. Not judging — nostalgia is powerful — but let’s be honest: this wasn’t a relationship, it was a beautiful, forbidden highlight reel your brain refuses to stop replaying.

AskApril nailed it with the fantasy vs. reality take. You didn’t fall in love with him you fell in love with the feeling: secrecy, intensity, rebellion, and being seen in a way your real life didn’t allow at the time. Of course it stuck. That’s not romance, that’s dopamine with a dramatic soundtrack.

Still, saying “he was more than a fantasy” makes sense emotionally — but logically? You knew him for minutes, not milestones. The idea of him grew because nothing real ever replaced it.

No shame, no judgment just facts. Memories don’t mean destiny. Sometimes they’re just reminders that you were craving love, freedom, and connection… not a lifelong runaway plan

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