[MrsDepp13]

I’m going on 24 years old and I’ve only been in one relationship that was very short lived and the guy friend zoned me. The weird part is, I find that a lot of other guys do the same thing. I’m confident about my looks and people tell me I’m attractive yet I always find myself being the “pal” or “friend” to guys when I’m seeking out more with them. I usually try to be easy going and nice when first meeting a guy.

What lands you in the friend zone over and over? How do I avoid this in the future and instead get dates? I’m always happy making a new friend but its tough when I want so much more in reality. Some of my friends seem to get dates and guys so easily who want more!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

If you don’t want to be in the friend zone, stop being his friend. Your strategy of being a pal and a friend doesn’t work. Men want to date women who make them feel like they’re going after a prize. If you want them to chase you then give them something to chase! Be alluring. Be sexy. Be a vixen. If you find yourself in the friend zone, then move on. It’s not a place you should be! 😉

You can learn a lot about this by reading Think & Date Like A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url]. You can download the book immediately at the link I gave you or order it shipped on the sites for Barnes & Noble or Amazon.

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[trey44]

Hi,
I met a woman online awhile back. She seems like everything I have ever wanted. We have hung out several times and I she seems to like spending time with me as I do her. The only thing is I am extremely confused on where I stand with her.
She is a single mother of two small children. I took a little extra time for her to get to know me better before asking for a meeting. After we chatted online a few weeks, one evening she invited me to her apartment to hang out. I met her kids and we all watched movies. The kids went to bed and we had a few drinks, made out a bit and actually fell asleep on her couch together. It was an awesome just hang out date.
We have hung out several times since and always have a blast. We all went to the park, I goof off with the kids and they seem to really like me as well. The only thing is she seems to be resisting being physical at all lately. She has a couch and a love seat and wont even sit with me, yet she continues to invite me over (three days in a row this week as a matter of fact). I really cant tell where I stand. I try to talk to her about it and she seems uncomfortable so I don’t push the issue, I have asked her on alone dates but get pushed off. I feel it could be one of three things 1) she is really testing me to get serious because of her kids, 2) she has a wall built up because she has dated some major jerks which she admits, or 3) she only sees me as a friend. I am feeling it may be #3. The more I talk to her about it the more confusing it is, and it seems to kill the momentum we build when I just leave it alone.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

Please start a fresh string of posts, instead of replying with new questions to someone else’s post here. 🙂 I’ll look out for your new post and I’ll answer your questions there.

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