You have a big problem if you’re accusing him of things even when you know he hasn’t done them. 😯 On some level you’re trying to push him away — maybe because you don’t think you deserve him, or perhaps because you don’t think you’ll be able to keep him so it’s less painful to push him away than to be rejected by him…. whatever the motivation for your unhealthy behavior, you have to stop it.
If you’re really strong then just being conscious when you’re about to say something that isn’t true or that you don’t mean, may be enough for you to self-muzzle before the destructive words come out. If you’re not that in touch with yourself then you have to take baby steps to get there. Stop yourself from saying anything negative at all. That’s for starters. Then when you’re about to say something negative, stop yourself and take yourself out of the room so you can cool down and think about why you were about to say it and what’s really going on underneath.
The relationship you’ve just lost is less important than this problem you have that will follow you from relationship to relationship, bombing them, if you don’t deal with it effectively now. Do the work. You are worth it.
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