[miah323]

OK I have read your book on how to date out of your league and I am very good about doing most of what you were saying in your book. i just had a couple of questions: What are things to look for when a girl likes you? How would she act? I know face time is key after meeting for the first time what do you do if you are having a hard time aquiring a date cause of her busy schedule,her being a single mom of a 2 and 3 year old, between kids and work? She likes me visiting her at work and says the first time she gets an opening she will let me know, she seams very sincere, but she wants me to visit her at work and continue to text her. She loves to give me hugs for greeting. She always texts me back even if it is the next morning. She will always sit and face me looking directly into my eyes. She never seams to be available for phone calls, when i text her, not for very long per day, she sometimes wont respond for 12 hours. Please help I am confused on what the deal is with her.

[Ask April Masini]

It sounds like she really isn’t ready to have a boyfriend because she’s got too much going on in her own life to make space for a guy. Having compatibility with a woman has a lot to do with her being ready and willing to date you. This woman may like you, but she isn’t ready and willing to change her schedule around to actually go on a date with you at this time in her life.

And if you want to know more about ways women let you know they like you, go back to Date Out of Your League, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url] and read the section on her body language and what it means. 😉

I hope that helps. Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[miah323]

She has actually asked me to to come visit her at work today and asked if I could take her to work. I couldn’t cause of my work schedule. So she asked me if I could stop by her work so we could talk. She said asked if I had and free time next week and we could start out with coffee before she goes to work.She said she has an hour free then we could talk outside her work environment. She has also text me every morning to say good morning. Then last night when we were saying our good byes she asked if she could call me or text me tomorrow morning and gave me a little peck on the lips.

[Ask April Masini]

I’m not sure what your question is. 😕

[dacamraman]

ok. sounds like she may already have a guy. have you asked her that? why does she always have to see you at work? why don’t you talk when she’s at home?

[miah323]

Ok my questions are: Does she like me or is she just being nice and just sees me as a friend? How do and when do i move the relationship from casual dating into dating? Should i just come right out and ask her or tell her how i feel and what I want? I have known her for about three weeks now and we have gone out to lunch 2x and she keeps telling me we need to do it again. She also keeps asking me to come keep her company at work. And when i don’t go she says she misses me. Where i am confused is she stop being as physical and i think part of that is because i have a major injury i am recovering from and she is scared to injure me. Also i really haven’t given her any real physical touch either, so sometimes i think she says and dose thing to kind of figure me out cause she doesn’t know where i stand. the last time i visited her at work she sat down next to me and asked me what i wanted to know about her that i didn’t know. She also apologized for the beginning of our date because a little baby daddy drama happened with her and she didn’t want to scare me off of one incident. She also asked me about my job offer i got to move out of the area and she looked sad to think i was considering thinking about taking it and tried to use my kids as a reason to stay local. Then when i go to take her home she talked about what she was looking for in a guy long term which was very similar to what she told me that i was like. She also said that she wasn’t looking for a title or anything and that she was looking for someone that will take care of her and treat her right. I just really like her and want this to work.

[Ask April Masini]

I know you said you bought Date Out of Your League, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url], but I’m not convinced from your questions here that you actually read it. 😕 There is a lot of information in Date Out of Your League, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url], that will help you with so many of your questions you’re asking here, and the ones you’re not asking.

It really sounds like she’s ready to be asked out on a romantic date. Invite her to dinner, pick her up, bring her some flowers, hold her hand, kiss her, and see who it all goes. 😀

Let me know if that helps — and please do read the book! 😀

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[Socrates]

I hate to break it to you, but she sounds like she is just using you for entertainment. You have to think of it from her perspective, she sounds like she has some drama going on and she has got two kids and work. She has got a full plate, so you are nice distraction. When dating girls, you should never get too invested in them until it is obvious you are a couple. If this girl is your only option right now, get other options.

[Ask April Masini]

I agree with [b]Socrates[/b] — but I’d really like the poster to start thinking about things from [i]his own[/i] perspective. Either way, you end up getting to the same place, but you get there a lot more quickly if you start and end with what works for you. If daters can decide what they want and then “edit” potential dates according to compatibility, there won’t be so much confusion, wasted time, and hurt feelings. 😉

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[miah323]

Yes I have others that i am talking too also but i am most interested in her. She is fun to hang out with and i have gotten to know alot about her. I did as you said and asked her out on a date for next wed. She said she would look for a babysitter. Since what you guys have said I am not holding my breath. Although this whole last week she has asked me to come see her at work and we have had really good conversation she kept rubbing my leg sitting really close to me playing with her hair holding my hand.. The night didn’t end well when i took her home. Before I took her home i heard that a good friend of mine died and i didn’t tell her. Then she kept asking whats wrong and that she was worried about me, until we got to her place she gave me a long hug and a kiss on the cheek and she told me to caller her last night cause she wanted to make sure i made it home safe and she said she wanted to talk to me in the morning. I didnt call her last night when i got home. Then this morning i appoligized for how i acted because i had gotten some bad news, she said i was acting weird last night and then she said she was busy and i haven’t heard back from her all day. Did i ruin things by how i was acting weird? I’m just wondering if i am taking this too slow and not picking up on her signs, or if she is just using me to have fun with like u guys said. If i am a break from her hectic life is there away to move it to something more? Oh yeah got her flowers one of the days I was taken her home and got a big hug and another kiss on the cheek. She said no one has ever given her flowers. I should have kissed her oh well.

[Ask April Masini]

[quote]The night didn’t end well when i took her home. Before I took her home i heard that a good friend of mine died and i didn’t tell her. Then she kept asking whats wrong and that she was worried about me, until we got to her place she gave me a long hug and a kiss on the cheek and she told me to caller her last night cause she wanted to make sure i made it home safe and she said she wanted to talk to me in the morning. I didnt call her last night when i got home. Then this morning i appoligized for how i acted because i had gotten some bad news, she said i was acting weird last night and then she said she was busy and i haven’t heard back from her all day. Did i ruin things by how i was acting weird?[/quote]

Ask her out on a date again! 😀 Be charming, and don’t forget how well the flowers worked. 😉

[miah323]

OK i have another question. A little back story. Her dog is sick and she has said that her 2 kids under 3yo are driving her crazy. I normally talk to her everyday now for a month through phone calls text and even talking to her in person. Ever since Friday night she has been sending me scattered messages. Here Are some of the text messages. I was just wondering if she is blowing me off or is she just busy and stressed. I was thinking that since she was flirting with me a little on Sunday and then She apologies for not being in a good mood leads me to believe that she is still interested but is busy. I just don’t want to miss any signs and hints if she is just trying to cut me loose. How Long should I wait to contact her if I should? Should I take her a rose?

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Her to me Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 3:45 PM

I will let you know I should know around six or seven if you want you can come down and chill with me if you wanna drink

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Me to her Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 3:48 PM

What time should I come by? U so owe me!!!! LOL

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Her To Me Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 3:49 PM

Now… I know I’m sorry

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Me To Her Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 3:53 PM

Ok as soon as I’m done here at the Dr ill come by

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Her To Me Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 3:58 PM

Okay how long do you think that will be

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Me To Her Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 3:59 PM

Anytime now

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Me To Her Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 4:00 PM

Why what’s up?

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Her To Me Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 4:01 PM

I’m just bored

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Me To Her Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 4:02 PM

Oh I c I’m bored too stupid. Dr LOL

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Her To Me Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 4:05 PM

Lol well I hope you come soon

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Me to Her Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 4:07 PM

The Dr is here now

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Her to Me Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 4:08 PM

Okay tell him to hurry the fuck up

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Me To Her Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 4:25 PM

Ok done

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Her To Me Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 4:27 PM

Lol wow that was fast

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Me to her Fri, Jan 13, 2012 at 4:30 PM

I knw that’s how I roll gangster style LOL

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Me To Her Sat, Jan 14, 2012 at 10:05 AM

Goodmorning beautiful sorry if I was an ass yesterday… I’ll understand if u never want to talk to me again

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Her To Me Sat, Jan 14, 2012 at 10:37 AM

You definitely were acting really weird like it was actually kinda weird

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Me To Her Sat, Jan 14, 2012 at 10:39 AM

Can I call u

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Me to her Sat, Jan 14, 2012 at 10:44 AM

I need to explain u will understand

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Her To Me Sat, Jan 14, 2012 at 10:44 AM

In a while I’m kinda busy right now

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Me To Her Sat, Jan 14, 2012 at 10:47 AM

Ok just call me when u can. I know u will understand. I had a really hard night. I hope I didn’t scare u off. I think u know by know that I wouldn’t do anything to hurt u. And i feel crapy if I messed anything up. U also know that I would tell u anything I just didn’t know How to deal with it last night. I lost a good friend last night that’s why I drunk so much. I knew him since I was 3years old. I didn’t want to say anything cause I didn’t want to cry in front of u. But I still wanted to enjoy you company cause it was taking away the pain. I just hope we r ok. I’m sorry I know ur busy so ill stop bugging you

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Me To Her Sat, Jan 14, 2012 at 6:38 PM

I miss u and I’m sorry

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Her To Me Sat, Jan 14, 2012 at 6:40 PM

Its okay I’m just really busy today I’m been running around ali day

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Me To her Sat, Jan 14, 2012 at 6:45 PM

Are u sure it ok? I did miss u and I didn’t mean for a jerk. Lok

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Me to her Sat, Jan 14, 2012 at 7:39 PM

U would totally laugh at my haircut. I look like Mr T. LOL 🙁

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Her To Me Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 9:45 AM

Goodmorning how are you

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Me to her Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 9:53 AM

Good morning babygirl. I had a dirty dream about u last night… LOL

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Her To Me Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 10:07 AM

Lol really was it a hot dirty dream

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Me To Her Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 10:08 AM

Well we were in the woods and it had been raining so we were both soaking wet when u fell in the mud and we began to mud wrestle it was SO dirty.

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Her To Me Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 10:09 AM

Lol your dumb but I like it

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Me To Her Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 10:12 AM

Did I mention how after I pinned u down mud wrestling I picked u up and pushed u against a tree and slowly began to slide my hand up ur ribs and under ur clinging shirt.

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Her To Me Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 10:13 AM

No you didn’t mention that…. Are you about to turn this into a sex novel lol

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Me To Her Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 10:17 AM

I told u it was dirty. Lol but a fun dirty. U know u like my sex novel…. Lmao

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Her To Me Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 10:17 AM

I do it was pretty intense

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Me To Her Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 10:22 AM

I haven’t even told u as I lifted your shirt gently over ur head I stopped pinning ur arms up and passionately kissed u using ur shirt as an umbrella 4 us I’m telling u this dream was DIRTY!!!! LOL

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Her To Me Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 10:32 AM

Wow it sound dirty I bet you woke up with a smile

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Me To Her Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 10:34 AM

Yeah I did only cause I love camping Lmao 😛

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Me To Her Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 10:58 AM

I woke up with more then a smile. Lol now that I put a smile on ur face And happy thoughts in ur panties. how are u doing this morning?

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Her to me Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 11:00 AM

Lol I’m doing okay just got done giving bentley a bath now I have a mountain of laundry to do 🙁

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Me To Her Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 11:04 AM

Sounds fun is the mountain bigger then u well that’s not saying much. Lol I’m just kidding 😛

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Her To Me Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 12:02 PM

Lol I like camping every once and a while it depends on my mood

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Me To Her Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 12:29 PM

U would molest me if we went camping huh? Lol. My hat still hasn’t recovered yet from being molested. Although I sniff & lick it first. Beach or mountain camping?

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Me To Her Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 2:44 PM

My phone butt dialed u. LOL downfall of a big black ass. Lol u should know all about that. LMFAO

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Me To Her Sun, Jan 15, 2012 at 8:02 PM

Hey where is my blonde white green eyed babies mamma at!?!?! 🙂 LMFAO

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Me To Her Mon, Jan 16, 2012 at 11:52 AM

OMG !!!! I was at vons and I just saw a whole bunch of oompalumpas in line!!! Who ever gave short people the right to breed!!!! Anyway it just made me think about u SHORTY!!! LMFAO I hope u are doing ok.

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Her To Me Mon, Jan 16, 2012 at 1:31 PM

I’m okay I’m just really tired and I had to stay I up late with the puppy..and the kids are keeping me pretty busy too.. lol thats funny don’t hate on sh ort people we are going to the the world one day

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Me To Her Mon, Jan 16, 2012 at 1:45 PM

I’m not hating. Lol I just want to pick u up

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Me to Her Mon, Jan 16, 2012 at 1:53 PM

I figured I just wanting to make sure my short oompalumpa was ok. LOL

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Her To Me Mon, Jan 16, 2012 at 7:11 PM

I’m hanging in there its been a rough couple of days for me

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Me To Her Mon, Jan 16, 2012 at 7:16 PM

Im sorry. I wish I could make it all go away for u. And help u relax.

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Me To Her Mon, Jan 16, 2012 at 7:46 PM

Bab, u are doing great. You are a wonderful mom. I’m very proud and impressed by you and how hard u work. :-*

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Me To Her Mon, Jan 16, 2012 at 9:23 PM

Look at u .. Life has NOT defeated you !!! U r strong . Stand tall and proud of what u have been thru … And How u have overcome it.something amazing will happen to u because u r so special 🙂

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Me To Her Mon, Jan 16, 2012 at 11:01 PM

Good nite 🙂

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Me To Her Tue, Jan 17, 2012 at 9:12 AM

OMG there is this really cute girl from this strip club named Lela that I use to flirt with … But I think she got kidnapped or something. Im thinking of sending a search party.

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Her To Me Tue, Jan 17, 2012 at 1:02 PM

Hey I have to say that’s a random statement.. I’m doing okay just been really tired and busy. I havent really been in a very talkative mood either I haven’t really been on the phone much either

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Me to her Tue, Jan 17, 2012 at 1:04 PM

What’s going on? Would it help I I came by and bought u a beer or two?

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Me To Her Tue, Jan 17, 2012 at 1:21 PM

That statement was to cheer u up LOL .I’m just worried about u this is not normally u. But thank u for telling

Her to me Tue, Jan 17, 2012 at 3:55 PM

Sorry I’ve been like this lately I’ve just been pretty stressed out

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Me To Her Tue, Jan 17, 2012 at 3:58 PM

Hey no worries shorty I’m here for you. I understand. Just get back to ur old oompalumpa self. Lmao 🙂

Just let me know when ur ready for me to cheer u up with some shots and beer

[Ask April Masini]

Look — I’m doing my best here, but you’re not meeting me halfway…. 😳

You need to read Date Out of Your League, [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url]. I know you said you read it, but it’s not evident from your posts that you read it at all. You’re asking a lot of questions that are answered in the book, and while I love helping people, if you don’t help yourself, then it’s a lot more cumbersome to get anywhere. 😕

So please, please — go back and read the book. Slowly, this time. It’s going to help you with everything you’re asking me here — and more. 😉

[miah323]

Ok I have read the book again since the last time I wrote you. Well I have to say it answered alot of my questions and didn’t help me with others. Well what I have learned from the book is that she displays a lot of the behaviors that you wrote about in your book that she has a high degree of interest in me. I think what kind of throws me off is that she works in a profession where she flirts with men for money although just recently I have begin to notice the difference in how she flirts with them and me. I also learned from her sister that she is very scared of relationships cause she has been hurt before. Also she has a lot of responsibility and very little help when it comes to raising her two little kids that are under 3yo. She has only been in long term relationships with jerks and is trying something different. So her sister said that she is trying to take it slow but she said if i don’t give up on her then she is worth the wait.

Some how Katie found out that I talked to her sister and her sister said that all we talked about was me taking katie’s sister out shopping. Katie came up to me and said how dare her sister try and take me away from her and that her sister would only use me to get stuff. Katie said that her sister should not be asking the guy she is talking to to take her shopping. Katie went off for about 15 min on this. She told me that she shouldn’t have a say in what I do but she didn’t want me too.

Anyway She called me the next day and asked if I could give her a ride to work and that I would have to take her to to mall first and that we would have a good time. (I took advise from a friend he told me that all woman play games and she is playing a game with me so I am too available to her and that I need her to miss me liking her, so he told me to not text her first anymore or call her first anymore if she calls just act like I am busy.) We did and I ended up dropping her off at work. She said she needed a ride home. I stayed at work with her she kept asking me not to leave that as soon as it got a little less busy she would come sit with me and talk. She did and she asked me to dance with her I asked if it was OK to hold and touch her she said of course. It was a very sensual dance and she wanted another dance. So after she was done working I took her home and I was flirting and tickling her. Then when she was getting her stuff out of her car I gave her a good bye hug and and kissed her cheek she laughed nervously and she gave me another hug tighter so I leaned in and kissed her she didn’t pull away or anything but she wouldn’t go for a french kiss but it was more then a peck. She said that she felt weird with her ex in the house watching the kids and that’s why she didn’t want to french kiss me. But i leaned in again and she tried but I thing it was weird for her. We kissed one more time and she said that was enough for me and that she knows that I liked it as she twisted my nipples. I asked if is was OK with the kiss she said don’t worry I was good. That happened Thursday night and it is Saturday and i haven’t heard from her yet. I am just wondering if I should do like my friend said and wait for her to contact me first or should I just send one or two messages max a day just to let her know I am thinking about her? I am pretty sure she likes me but when she does things like this it makes me wonder.

Anyways thank you for your advise.

[Ask April Masini]

Ask her out on a date. 😀

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