[ladydh]

my ex and i were together for 4 yrs. he cheated on me so i dumped him. he made the girl he cheated on me with his girlfriend. he moved in with her and her two sons because he had nowhere else to live. also they all moved to another state because they didnt have anywhere to live here in this state any more. she had his baby a few days ago. throughout their relationship he has asked can he get me pregnant on purpose 2x (both times i declined) and he asked to get back with me and then when i said yes he had sex with his baby mother again so i left him alone ever since. me and him dont speak at all ever but he told his girlfriend he wanted to be my boyfriend again but he hasnt changed he cheated on her too so i said no. recently (yesterday) he sent me a message saying “i dont know if u care or not but my daughter was born. she’s beautiful.”

im confused? why would he tell ME this when we dont even speak and his daughter has nothing to do with me. is he just being cruel and rubbing it in my face that he had a baby with the girl he cheated on me with? what was his point of sending me that message? and how should i reply? he is still with his baby mother and im sure theyre a couple.

[Purplerain]

Dear ladydh,
Sometimes we get caught in situations that without us realizing are so obviously detrimental at least. Life is mostly emotional, so our emotions trap us and we are no longer clearheaded. The good news is that emotions, negative or positive fade away when we don’t feed them.
I think that you don’t realize it because you are emotionally involved but this man is not for you. Do not respond to him . Ever. Run !
You are asking what is his point in him sending you the message about his baby girl. Ask yourself what is the point in replying to him . Don’t be confused, be strong !
There are amazing honest and loyal men out there. Save your energy in finding yourself and a beautiful love relationship.

[Ask April Masini]

I like what [b]purplerain [/b] wrote to you. And now I can concur…. the reason this guy wrote to you about his new daughter is because he is selfish. 😳 He doesn’t think about your reaction. He doesn’t think about the times he cheated on you. He doesn’t think that his contacting you may hurt the feelings of his current live in girlfriend. He only thinks about himself, and he wanted to share his good news to make himself (and only himself) feel good.

This guy isn’t a very considerate, kind or honest person — to say the least. He doesn’t have a good character, and he’s never going to make a good boyfriend, father or husband — so give yourself a little celebratory pat on the back that he’s not your bad boyfriend, and that you’re free to find someone terrific to share your love with. 😀

Don’t respond. Ever. Like[b] purplerain[/b] said, Run! And I’d tell you to put up some boundaries, like blocking his calls and e-mails and not letting him into your life in any way. You can do better — and you should!

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