[zhenka23]

Hello April,
I’m in a very tricky situation. I was in a relationship for three years and broke up with my ex a year ago because he cheated on me with a female friend of his. She was married with three kids at that time when they had the affair. Her husband also was a friend of my ex. I was devastated and told her husband what was happening between his wife and my ex. This incident happened 2/5 years ago. I never saw her or her husband after this. Well after my break up about 8 months later I just happened to run into this person her husband by accident. We said hello and that’s it. Later I ran into him again at a club and we started talking. He told me that he was separated from his wife and going through a divorce. Well this somehow turned into romance. And now we are dating. I’m fully moved on although its strange to be dating him given the fact that he is the husband of the woman my ex cheated on me with. I have strong feelings for him, and I believe he does to. At least he says so. However now his soon to be ex wife and my ex boyfriend found out that we were together and started making things complicated for us. Oh I forgot to mention that she is in a relationship now with my ex. But the problem is that his divorce is very nasty and he seems very confused. He goes through these stages when he doesn’t even know what to do. Now he is pushing me away because he is down and confused. Then he comes back saying he wants me in his life but what he is dealing with is confusing him a lot. She is making his life unbearable so he can’t concentrate on me. What do I do? Do I let him go or do I support him in this mess and take the chance of being hurt. His ups and downs are bothering me. But I have been there in my life and I know how confusing it is to go through a divorce. Do I give up on him because he is not fully ready? Do I wait and see? I don’t know how to handle this. Given the fact that I know his wife and how I got to meet him the first place?

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