[maltagirl]

there’s this guy that i really like and we both stay with the same group of friends and i have started to like him around a month ago when i started to stay with a lot of his friends and we used to message eachother and meet whenever we were out which was mostly at night at clubs and this has been going on for over a month and going pretty well like we would stay together all night, he would hold my hand literally sometimes and we used to kiss and spend nights talking and drinking and just having fun. New year’s eve i saw him and i went to say hi and happy new year and he was quite ok but then towards the end of the night, everyone was kind of drunk and he looked as if he was too and so i went up to him and asked him if he was ok and he told me “I don’t feel like you right now”. He used to like this girl a lot and she got back with her boyfriend on New year’s so im guessing that was the reason why he was acting cold to me that night and probably the alcohol didn’t help too much either. Two days after new year’s we were all out at the club and we were with the same group of friends and he saw me but didn’t say a word to me all night but kept looking at me throughout the night. He doesn’t like girls that run after him and he had told me once that he likes me that i’m hard to get. I really want to know if he likes me but I don’t want him to think that i follow him around or that i’m being needy or anything. Please heeelp!! xx 🙁

[Ask April Masini]

Don’t chase him — and he won’t feel chased! It’s really that simple. Let him be the one to approach you and to initiate conversations. If he wants to ask you out, he will. But….if he doesn’t, then you’ll know that while you may be disappointed, he isn’t interested in you enough to date you.

It’s hard to like someone when they don’t like you back the same way you like them at the same time you like them, if at all! But the reality is that by letting him be the one to make the first move (and the second and the third) you’ll have a clear picture of where you stand.

I know that you really like this guy, but it would be a mistake to spend too much time thinking about him when he isn’t showing you genuine interest. So, to avoid obsessing over him, keep your eyes out for other guys, too! It’s good to have a lot of fun with a lot of different people when you don’t have a commitment from that one special person. That will make it easier for you to accept the reality of what’s going on with this guy, and to not feel like all your eggs are in one basket.

I hope that helps!

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