[sahil8855]

I need some advice here. I apologize for the long story but I really need some help as I think I have blown my chances here.

So here’s my case.

I have this co worker who I have been attracted to for about two months. Everytime she sees me, she gives me the biggest smile and waves to me and we always create rapport with each other. None of the dreaded interview style questions. I look into her eyes when I’m always talking with her.

Now recently I was out with my buddies at a restaurant and I told them I wanted to be with this girl and I showed them a picture of her facebook profile which they all found she was gorgeous.
I told them at I only talk to her at work and they said if I wanted to get with her I should talk to her outside of work. So for the whole night they forced me to send her a facebook message saying, “Hi, how are you” which I eventually sent it at 1am in the morning as I finally gave in to my friends request which they forced me to do all night.

I waited for two days and she did not reply at all and now it had been a two weeks since I sent the message. Now I get the feeling that I’ve creeped her out cause I’ve sent her a message out of the blue.

So I thought of two stories to tell her next time I see her on why I sent the facebook message at 1am in the morning.

1. I got really drunk and passed out and my friends stole my iphone and sent you the message

2. I say the reason why I sent you the message is because I was telling my friends about this gorgeous girl I wanted to ask out and wouldn’t leave me alone about sending a message to her( I don’t mention her name).

I haven’t been able to see her at work and tell her one of the chosen scenarios( most likely number 2) and explain why it happened as I have been busy with family stuff and now she’s going on a holiday to Bali which I’m afraid she’s going to lose maybe her attraction to me, forget about me or get a boyfriend over there.

What do I do?

Thank you for reading this

[Ask April Masini]

If you give too much attention to a mistake, it becomes more apparent — which is why I’d ignore that Facebook message and just focus on what you want — which is to ask her out on a date. Get her phone number if you don’t see her around the office first, and invite her to have coffee or drinks after work on a casual date so you can talk and get to know each other. If things go well, you’ll have a nice flow to work from and ask her out on another date. 😉

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[Lune David]

Honestly, this feels like one of those moments where friends hype you up, it’s late at night, and suddenly Facebook becomes the enemy 😅

Sending a simple “hi” at 1am didn’t ruin anything. What would ruin it is turning it into a whole explanation story with excuses and damage control. That usually makes things more awkward, not less.

AskApril is right here — the best move is to forget the message even happened and just keep it simple when you see her. Ask her out for coffee or a drink like a normal, confident human. No backstory, no apology tour.

And don’t stress about her Bali trip. If someone forgets you just because they went on holiday, they were never that interested to begin with. Real attraction doesn’t disappear on a beach.

Bottom line: stop overthinking, trust the vibe you already had, and take a clean, calm shot. Even a no is better than weeks of “what if.

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