[lucky3ram]

We have been in love past 2years.I only proposed him.We use to be the best pair.Then gradually he started ignoring me,avoiding me.At first I didn’t get to know why??
Once I saw his chat with friend saying his friend “Don’t tell lucky that Iam using mobile.Pretend as if don’t use a mobile”.
Then I asked him about that, he then told that yes Iam avoiding you because my parents doesn’t agree for our wedding. So its better to part.
It lagged for 1yr. And the next year he started saying”I never loved you.I just liked you,but I didn’t know you would take the relation so serious!!”.
I was shocked and fighted a lot.Then finally he agreed to marry me. I was so happy for that. Then he use to speak to me daily on call / chat.
One day he asked my nude pictures..telling that we would marry so please send me and trust me.
After 3 days , when I totally started trusting him I sent them to him.
A month passed like this.Then he went his native for vacation,after meeting his family again the story is repeating.
He started telling
“I can’t marry you! Lets part”
I never accepted and told him if he would leave me I would die.
He said very painfully yes for relation.But he is not replying my calls,messages from past week(after that suicide discussion)
Please help me with this.
Iam from an orthodox family,more over I love him like hell.
I couldn’t decide whether I should be happy? or he?
And I really don’t know if family is only problem factor or else any other ?
Please help me

[Ask April Masini]

I’m sorry you’re in so much pain. Rejection hurts, and he is being very clear that he doesn’t want to be with you or marry you. My advice is that you accept this rejection and stop contacting him, so that you can heal from your disappointment and move on. For future, never chase a guy. Always let him do the chasing, and always let him propose — that’s how you know you’re with someone who truly wants to be with you. If he is the one doing the chasing and the asking, he’s going to want to win you over, and you’ll know that because it’s actually happening! 😉

Again, I’m very sorry for your hurt, but the longer you try to convince him to stay with you, the worse this will be for you. Accept the rejection and move on.

[Sally]

your life matters more than this relationship. If you are feeling like you might hurt yourself, please pause and get help right now. Talk to a trusted friend, family member, or a local crisis line.

Now, about him. What you’re describing is not love. It’s someone pulling you close, pushing you away, denying your reality, then using promises to keep you attached. Asking for nude photos, then withdrawing again, is a huge red flag. That is not care. That is control and confusion.
His family may be part of it, but his actions are the real problem. A man who truly loves you does not repeatedly abandon you, rewrite history, or disappear when you’re in pain.
You do not need to choose his happiness over yours. And you do not need to beg someone to stay.
Right now, the most important thing is your safety and dignity. Please talk to someone in your real life today. You deserve protection, not this kind of hurt.

[Tara]

What you are describing is not love, it is exploitation followed by abandonment, and it is already dangerous. This man has lied to you repeatedly, avoided you deliberately, rewritten history to escape responsibility, pressured you into sending nude photos under the promise of marriage, and then discarded you the moment family pressure returned. That is not confusion. That is calculated self-interest. He agreed to marriage only when you fought and cried, not because he chose you. The moment he got what he wanted emotional control, sexual access, reassurance he disappeared again. A man who loves you does not hide his phone, deny your relationship, threaten to leave, demand nude pictures, then vanish. He used your devotion because he knew you would bend.

Saying you will die if he leaves is not proof of love it is proof you are in emotional crisis and need help immediately. Tying your life to someone who is actively rejecting you is not romance, it is self-destruction. No relationship is worth your life. Ever. If you are feeling like you might harm yourself, you must reach out to a trusted person right now or contact a suicide prevention helpline in your country immediately. This is not optional or dramatic it is necessary.

The family excuse is just that an excuse. If family were the only problem, his behavior would be consistent, respectful, and transparent. It is not. The real problem is that he does not want to marry you and does not have the courage to say it cleanly, so he keeps you trapped in hope while withdrawing emotionally. That is cruelty.

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