She already backed out. You’re trying to resurrect a version of her that doesn’t exist anymore.
She didn’t pull away because you were “too sweet” or because “timing is bad” or because she’s “busy.” She pulled away because her interest dropped. Period. When someone wants you, they make time. When they don’t, they give you poetic excuses like “you deserve better” and “later down the line.” That’s breakup language wrapped in soft tissue, so you don’t cry.
And yes, you were clingy. You smothered the spark. You spammed her with texts, begged for time, chased her like she was a prize you were about to lose. Nothing kills attraction faster. You turned yourself into a predictable, always-available emotional sponge, and she got bored.
The “good morning, have a great day :)” texts? That’s guilt maintenance. She wants the comfort of your attention without the commitment of being with you. She likes how you make her feel, but she doesn’t want to date you. That’s not affection, that’s convenience.
And your mission to “get her more attracted to me again” is pathetic. You’re trying to win back a version of her that only existed because the chase was new. You can’t reverse-engineer attraction by being needier than before.
Here’s the only move you have: disappear. Completely. No daily texts. No check-ins. No begging for plans. No emotional commentary. She either feels the loss and comes back with actual intention, or she doesn’t, and then you finally stop humiliating yourself.
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