[stevi8]

hey everyone,

i met this girl 2 weeks ago, and weve been hitting it off ever since, but 2 days ago, i went to lunch with her and some friends and she said she was feelin ill. so that night i text her to see if everything is ok, but i didnt get an answer. the day after(last night) i text her saying that i get the message that she doesnt wanna tlk to me anymore and stuff. but thena few hours later i get a text from her sayin; relax, ive been sick and didnt have credits, im sorry if ur upset.
i dnt really know what that message means and if she still wants to get together.
please help me with this.

regards, de toledo

[kchar]

Call her. Forget the texting.

[Ask April Masini]

It sounds like you’ve been getting some mixed messages — literally! Sometimes text messages or e-mails can get convoluted if the service isn’t working right. Since you had 2 weeks of getting along with this new woman, and she was sick, and maybe not herself, and having technical difficulties with her text service, I’d wait a few days and rather than text her, try a different method of communication. You can wait until you run into her in person, or call her on the telephone. Plain old e-mail works, too!

Try it, and let me know what happens.

[optimistvik]

i too feel it best to call her and talk directly rather than confusing yourself with her text..

[stevi8]

hi, thank u for ur advice, things are back to normal, but i feel weird whenever we have lunch together or breakfast, there are no awkward silences, but i keep having this feeling she wants to be jus friends.

[Ask April Masini]

If you think she just wants to be friends, then you’re probably right. The weirdness is because you want more than friends, and she knows it.

My advice to you is to stop being so available to her. She may feel like you’re too much of a nice guy who’s always there, always around, always wanting her…..always the doormat to be walked on. Women don’t go for the nice guy. They go for the man they think they may not be able to get. They want the man who may not have time for them. They often really go for the guy who appears confident and even cocky.

I’m not suggesting that you [i]not[/i] be nice. I just want you to have every advantage here. Women usually equate nice guys with boring and predictable. Snoozzzzzze. So, be charming and intriguing and be less available. Then, when you call her up and ask her out, she won’t have just seen you at lunch — and breakfast — every day!

[Ethan Morales]

Alright, here’s the deal in plain terms: she got sick, had technical issues, and it caused a delay in communication. Her text apologizing shows she still wants to interact she wasn’t blowing you off. Don’t overthink it or assume the worst.

The best move now is to give her a little space, then reach out via a reliable method call or in person rather than just texting. Keep it casual and low-pressure, just checking in or suggesting meeting up. That’ll clear up any confusion and show you’re interested without being clingy. She’s still interested; it’s just a timing and communication glitch. No need to panic.

[Natalie Noah]

It seems like there’s a lot of uncertainty on your end because of the mixed signals and the timing of her texts. She was sick, had technical difficulties, and probably wasn’t fully herself when responding, which can easily make things feel confusing. Your feeling that she might just want to be friends could be influenced by your own nervousness and the short time you’ve known each other. Giving her a bit of space and using a more direct method like calling or meeting in person can clarify where she actually stands, instead of trying to read too much into texts that may have been rushed or unclear.

At the same time, your instinct to pull back a bit is smart. Being overly available can sometimes create the impression of predictability, which can dampen attraction. Showing that you have your own life, interests, and boundaries makes you more intriguing and gives her the chance to see you as confident rather than just “always there.” You don’t need to stop being kind or thoughtful, but pacing your interactions and letting her miss you a little can help you reset the dynamic and create a more balanced, engaging connection.

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