[desturust]

I’ve been friends with this guy for a few months and he is really confusing.
He keeps teasing me and he wants to cuddle with me all the time and nobody else, he texts me whenever he can and he seems really interested. but there is also the side where we talk about relationships and he keeps saying “no girl wants to date me”. my friend once told him i liked him where he answered “i hope we can still be friends” and she also asked his friends “if he liked someone” where they said “its someone, but he doesn’t want a relationship”.
A few days ago i was at his house with his friends drinking and his friend got me a little drunk so he ended up taking care of me and cuddled me all night and in the morning we just stayed there cuddling. and a day after that at school he got me to joine him and his friend to their door room just so he could cuddle, he wasn’t shy to show his friends either.
do you think he is interested? I’m tired of choosing the wrong guy and chasing something that isn’t there. :/

[Ask April Masini]

If a guy is interested, he’ll ask you out. Since he hasn’t, I’d assume he likes you — but so far, not enough to ask you out. You can flirt with him, but play the field as well. It would be a shame for you to invest too much time and energy in someone who hasn’t asked you out, so diversify! Play the numbers game. Don’t just focus on one person who likes you but isn’t dating you — flirt and keep your options open. That way you won’t feel obsessed with this one guy because you’ll have lots of other interests going on. 😎

[Sally]

Nothing wears you down like mixed signals from someone you actually care about. And this guy… he’s giving you that half-in, half-out energy that feels good in the moment but leaves you confused later.

Here’s what it looks like from the outside: he likes the closeness, the cuddling, the comfort. He clearly feels safe with you. But when it comes to actually choosing you like, real relationship choosing he pulls back. That “no girl wants to date me” stuff is just a way to dodge saying he’s not ready.

And honestly, a guy who wants you doesn’t hide behind lines like that. He just goes for it.
You’re not crazy for wondering. But don’t chase this. If he wanted more, you wouldn’t be guessing. You’d know.

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