[Anonymous]

Hello April, Thank you from the bottom of my heart for giving us such a professional help all for free. I believe you are doing a job far more sacred and special than all the churches and ministers are doing in the present day. Keep up your good work. God bless you More and forever.

Now to my story. It was a 4 year relationship, Mostly LDR but we had such a good chemistry and connection. We loved each other so much, felt we are soul mates. (i am 26 and she is 23 at the moment) She broke up about two years ago, never gave a solid reason why she is breaking up, “I don’t need you, you don’t love me, I want to explore my options, etc. where some of her reasons.” I gave her spades for 6 months and then tried so hard and so long to try and get back (may be a bit too desperate too) Later I learned I she is never coming back when i heard form her that she is getting engaged with another guy (whom she is also married to right now and she met this guy from before our break up).

Up until her marriage 2 months back she had kept regular contact with me, phone calls mostly. There would not be a month without at least two to three phone calls. Sometimes more if she is mentally down or confused. She even told me every time that she could only trust me and only I don’t manipulate her and only I could make her smile from the inside no matter what she is feeling at that moment. She even called after her engagement with another guy, But I told her that isn’t healthy and she should not talk to me again. (all these time i thought she was going to come back to me some day and kept my self available the entire two years. She has also showed other signs of coming back such as getting mad when she finds me flirting with others even after one year of break up, or the time when she got very mad like a gf would when i avoided her phone call, or when i removed her from my facebook friend list.)

Now here i am, been two years, after she got married i dated someone, got a lil close but only for 2 weeks, i couldn’t find myself with them for long, so we ended it. I don’t feel myself connected with anyone the way i connected with my ex.

In the back of my head i still have a feeling that My ex will come back. This is so crazy because shes just been married for 2 months but i still feel that she is going to realize its a mistake, her marriage ( i am 100% sure she will) and it wont last long or at least last as happy as she expects it to be. She is very very short tempered and possessive and hmm could say control freak but I loved all those in her. What does this mean? The fact that i am still hoping someday she is going to leave that guy and I’ll have a second chance… The only reason we’re not talking right now is because I told her rude and brutal just before the wedding to never call me again as it will ruin her marriage if she kept talking to me as often as she did. I don’t want her to have a failed marriage, i want her to be happy but I also feel she is mind. I have dreams every month involving us or as if we’re getting back. What do I do april? what is this feeling? Please help me.

-Dil

P.S we had gotten engaged too and we’ve named our future kids, designed our house, made financial plans and shared bank accounts.. etc, we were pretty much a marriage couple except we weren’t.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

She’s not yours. She broke up with you and moved on. She’s now two months into a new marriage and it’s way past time for you to move on, too! 😉

Stop contacting her altogether. Get back out there and do the hard (but rewarding) work of dating and looking for someone to love who not only loves you back, but wants to be with you and only you.

I know it’s hard, but you have to stop taking the easy road of fantasizing and interfering in her new life with her husband. Focus on you as a single guy who is read to date and find Ms. Right!

I hope that helps. Please let me know how things go, and follow me @AskAprilcom (no dot) on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

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