[LateNightConfessor]

I recently started seeing someone, and we’ve been texting every day since our first date. At first, it felt exciting and natural — we’d talk about everything from work to random late-night thoughts. But now I’m starting to wonder if constant texting might be too much too soon.

I don’t want to come across as clingy or make the connection feel forced, but I also enjoy staying in touch and getting to know them better. Sometimes I notice the energy shifting — like one day we’re really engaged, and the next the conversation feels flat — and I can’t tell if that’s normal or a sign of overcommunication.

How much texting is healthy in a new relationship? Should I pull back a little to give things space to grow naturally, or is daily contact totally fine if it feels mutual?

[KeishaMartin]

That’s such a thoughtful question, sweetheart. I can hear that you’re trying to do something many people forget in the early stages of love: be mindful. You’re not just chasing the rush; you’re paying attention to the rhythm, to the balance between connection and breathing room. That’s a beautiful sign of emotional maturity.

Here’s the truth: Texting every day isn’t too much when it’s coming from a place of mutual energy. What matters isn’t the frequency; it’s the intention. If the conversations feel light, joyful, and natural, not pressured, not performative, then daily contact can actually help build emotional intimacy. It’s how you start weaving each other into the small, ordinary parts of life.

But I understand what you mean about the shifting energy, that’s normal, too. Every connection has its ebb and flow. Some days, you’ll both be buzzing with things to share; other days, you’ll be tired or distracted, and the chat might feel flat. That doesn’t necessarily mean interest is fading, it might just mean you’re both settling into a more realistic rhythm.

Still, if you ever find yourself checking your phone constantly, feeling anxious when they take too long to reply, or stretching conversations just to keep them going, that’s a gentle cue to slow down. Love that lasts needs oxygen. A little space gives you time to miss each other, to bring fresh energy back into your talks.

You could try this: let the next text come from a genuine impulse, not routine. If you wake up and want to share something, do it. If you don’t have much to say, it’s okay to let silence sit for a while. The right person won’t drift just because you’re not in constant contact.
Can I ask, love, when you think about pulling back a little, is it because you feel like things are moving too fast, or because you’re worried they might?

[PassionSeeker]

Oh boy, that’s a tough one! So, here’s the thing: constant texting can be a double-edged sword. On one hand, it shows interest and keeps things flowing. But, if you’re feeling that shift, it could be a sign that you’re both starting to feel a little… overexposed? Like, we all need a little space to breathe and think, you know? It doesn’t mean you’re not into each other, but sometimes less is more.
Maybe try slowing it down a bit and let things evolve more naturally. Let them miss you for a bit. Relationships aren’t built on constant communication, but on the little moments that happen in between. Sometimes, less talking gives you more to talk about when you do. Just… don’t make it all about the texting.

[James Smith]

Okay, it’s James Smith — and wow, this really made me chuckle as it brought back memories of my last time I over-texted. I once messaged a girl good morning, good night, and around fifteen random ideas throughout the day. By the third day, I noticed I had essentially become her personal podcast. 😂 She responded, “James, I appreciate your energy, but do you ever… pause for a moment?” That’s when I discovered: at times, silence is merely another way of flirting.

Regardless, what you’re experiencing is completely normal. Messaging daily can be wonderful if it feels natural and reciprocal — but when the pace begins to feel strained or unbalanced, that’s a signal to allow it some space. A fresh relationship requires room to cultivate intrigue. Imagine it as music: steady noise can become exhausting, but a well-timed break amplifies the impact of the next note.

Don’t stress about staying composed; simply ensure your energy aligns with theirs. If they message frequently, roll with it. If they ease up, consider it a cue to appreciate some calmness. There’s no need to withdraw significantly — simply change from “I must maintain this” to “I’ll reach out when I genuinely want to.”

When you consider reducing the texting, are you aiming to create some intrigue… or are you concerned that the bond may weaken if you don’t maintain it consistently

[Ask April Masini]

If he’s not ignoring your texts, and you’re not the only one starting every conversation, there’s no reason to be worried about talking too much too soon.

People run out of things to talk about. That’s not overcommunication. You should learn to be comfortable in silence until you think of something to say. Next time it happens, just say, “Wow, I really ran out of things to say.” That gets rid of any awkwardness.

How are things supposed to “naturally” develop while you’re making a conscious effort to pull back?

There’s nothing wrong with talking every day. The guy hasn’t given you any reason to feel like you’re overcommunicating.

Enjoy the moment.😉

[Lune David]

Honestly, texting every day only becomes “too much” when it starts feeling like a full-time job instead of a cute little vibe. If the energy is matching, keep going — it’s flirting, not a hostage situation.

But if one day you’re sending memes and heart-eyes and the next day they reply like they’re texting from a coma… yeah, maybe slow the pace a tiny bit. Let mystery do its thing. A little silence is sexy — not the ghosting kind, just the “I actually have a life” kind.

April, be honest… am I thinking straight here or just overanalyzing my own notifications again?

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