[Anonymous]

I’ve been out with this girl a few times over the course of a month. I really like her and it seems she feels the same way. We’ve passionately kissed a few times but one thing she does that I don’t really understand why.

When I’m driving and shes in the passenger seat, she will take my hand and put it to her lips and kiss it. It is very sweet.

Also, she will play with my hair and loves to be near me (she wants to hook arms when walking or hold my hand)

What does the hang kiss mean?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It’s a way of her showing affection.

Hope that helps!! 😀

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[Anonymous]

I went out with her again a few nights ago. We held hands and kissed (that’s all we’ve ever done) and tonight she told me out of the blue she doesn’t want a relationship. I found this odd because it was so random and I know she has feelings for me which I told her she did lol (and she agreed) and I told her I do too. I don’t understand why she would say this so I challenged her and she told me she has no confidence in her self and doesn’t want one and just wants to be friends.

I told her well if you like me why do you have to analyze the relationship? We enjoy spending time together and we like eachother why can’t we just continue what we’ve been doing and she said I don’t want to lead you on.

After that I drove her home, on the way home she held my hand. I told her again I don’t understand where she is coming from. She told me she wants to hang out next week. I told her if it is as strictly platonic friends I’m not interested and she was like I don’t know. When I got to her house I said well what if I was to kiss you the next time were together would you? She seemed unsure. I said well ok I’ll kiss you now and she said thats it I’m leaving now to prove a point and gave me a hug and left. I was visibly upset but didn’t say anything. I just drove away.

She texted me last night saying she understands why I reacted that way and she deserved it. She also added she didn’t explain herself properly. I told her not to worry about it and we can have some more good times together. She told me all she does is worry so I told her to relax and if she wants to explain then she can.

I really care about this girl and if she is true in saying she has feelings for me why won’t she go with the flow as opposed to analyzing the situation? I want to spend time with her romantically and if she has feelings for me what can I do to assure that happens again?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You’re picking and choosing what you want to hear from her rather than hearing it all. For instance, she agreed that she has feelings for you, but she also said she doesn’t want a relationship and just wants to be friends. 😕 She said she wants to hang out next week, but when you kissed her, she left “to prove a point”. 😳 She tells you that all she does is worry, but you’re expecting her not to overanalyze and go with the flow. I’m afraid you’re not paying attention to who she’s telling you she is.

If you want to continue to pursue her, my advice is to ask her out on a real date (no hanging out), and if she says no, accept that.

She sounds confused, but the truth is that if you’re clear in your intentions and keep your behavior in line with what you want, she’ll have an opportunity to clear up her feelings. She’ll get to see she doesn’t get you as a friend — just as a girlfriend. Obviously, the risk is that she won’t want to date you and that will be the end of that, but it’s much better for you (who knows who you want to date and when) to get a clear answer and pursue a relationship or move on.

I hope that helps. Let me know how things go — and please join me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[Anonymous]

We spent time together last night at my place. We watched a movie together and showed signs of affection. Later that night we kissed and some more. She did mention she didn’t want a serious relationship again. However, I know she has feelings for me and genuinely cares about me. In a way it upsets me she won’t make it exclusive but at the same time I can live with it because I enjoy her company. Am I correct in continuing to play the role as a friends w/ benefits so that in time something more can develop?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

You didn’t follow my advice! 😳

Re-read the last post I wrote you — especially the part about no more hanging out.

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