[wolfbrotherhood]

Hi I need some help I have a couple of things. First is I am in a long distance Relationship with a person who is going through a devorce and has 2 young children. I met her online in october 2010 and almost instantly I knew something was different about her and she has all most all the qualties I like in a woman. She flirted with me first. We have been talking almost everyday since. I know she likes me cause of what she says in her emails and text messages to me.This is her las letter she sent me this friday 24 2010.
[b][color=#FF4040]“Your words echo thru ought my heart and soul . I was also that zombie for so long . All alone in the dark . Scared. Hiding. Running. Lost. Then I met u. U make me smile . Laugh . Love . I truly believe God brings people into our lives for a reason . We may not understand why at the time or even during but there is a time u will open your eyes and totally get what God wanted you to have out of that experience . I know we have no clue what the future holds for us and that can b scary but also take away from the joys of today. If we Dwell on the unknowing we miss out on the right now. I’m Just so happy I have u right now I can’t worry about tomorrow . Next week. Or even the years to come . Because if I do . It blinds my heart to what is right in front of me . You making me smile today . Making me laugh today. Making my heart complete today. Filling my soul with peace today. And at night I can close my eyes and reflect on the joy u have given me in all those things . And I can sleep in peace knowing this. Just in case tomorrow never comes . So baby u see what you have given me … You have given me back to me thanks so much and with all my heart I love you and as I write this I look forward to today with and how I will feel by the end if the day . Loved . Cherished. Wanted. Desired. And it’s all because if u !!!!!!”[/color][/b]But then this weekend I have only heard from her a couple of times through texts and emails. I dont know if she is just busy with family or she is just getting tired of me. She wont talk to me when her family is around because she is still going through the devorce process. She says she doesnt want to get back with he ex because he cheated on her and hurt her and is now trying to take her kids away. she loves her kids alot and even sleeps in the same room with them because she is afraid of something happining to them. She gets a little jeliouse when I go out with my guy friends and wants me to wait for her while she goes through her devorse and I cant meet her in person or anything untill the devorce is final. I am not looking for anything else and I thinkshe is worth the wait my friends beleive I am settiing myself up to get hurt.
Ok now next issue I dont know if I am texting her to much or if I am too avalibe to her at times like this when she goes almost 2 days with out texting me. this has only started happining during the holidays. If I go a couple of hours without texting her she would send me a text saying “are you ok and I guess I will talk to you sometime.” The last time she went I while without texting me I suggested we tell eachother when we will be avalible to communicate and she did really well at it untill this weekend. What else should I do?
After I heard her devorce was going to take longer then I expected I came up wit the idea of having an internet date at least once a week she loved the idea. I also said that if we want this long distance thing to work we need to know what each other are expecting out of the relationship and each other. She liked that idea also. Am I moving to fast with this do I need to slow down? What kind of vib are you getting from her? I just need some advise on it over all. Should I wait for her and not date other people? Should I not commit so much time and energy to her? Should I guard my heart? The long distance thing also allows me to get things in my life in order and cleared up. I beleive she is sincer and my friends beleive she is also. I just wanted to know because I eally feel like throwing my self COMPLETLY into this relationship. HELP ME PLEASE.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

No, this won’t work. Sorry.

You’ve never had a date with her, and she’s not willing to date you until she’s divorced, and you have no idea when that will happen. My advice is that you date women who are not already married to someone else. 😳 Investing emotionally in someone who’s not available to date you isn’t a good idea.

The long distance issue that “allows you to clear up your own life” is a flashing yellow light. My advice is that you clear up your own life FIRST and then date someone who’s compatible.

Read Date Out of Your League, a book I wrote for men who want to win with women, in order to be successful at dating. Here’s the link for that book: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url].

I hope this helps. Please follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

[wolfbrotherhood]

Sorry it took me so long to get back to you I got cancer and have been in and out of the hospital. She is willing to date as a matter of fact she has asked me to meet her in Las Vegas in May for our first meet. She agrees that we need to meet each other to see if it is something that we both want to continue. She is going through alot at home and has a husband that is really controlling and doesn’t want to let her go. She has allot of fears about moving out cause her husbands family has a hand in everything that goes on in their small logging town. She is currently going through the devoice and is stuck on the separation of property.

She acts guinewine and sincere. I have already talk to her small children on the phone and video chat. and we have good conversations on the phone that always end in I love yous. She calls me a goof hot her he-man, and I can always make her laugh. But as of late it seams like our talk time have lessened gradually from all day to once or twice a day. and sometimes days at a time in which she always gets worried about me. She goes through hard times where she gets moody and cranky so I give her her space then she always calls or gets in contact with me. The last time she got into one of those moods she said that she just needs a friend while she moody and the lovey dovey stuff bothers her. She got mad when I asked her if we were breaking up only to be friends. Then a couple days later it has Hun this baby that i love you. I’m kind of confused.I know she has her hands full with her young kids ex husband, but anytime I ask her she always says I know the answer and she gets mad when I think that we are drifting apart and she says its cause she is busy with her kids or she is in her once a month mood swings. I just don’t know what to do I really like her alot and want to work with her and I am willing to continue to be this way by committing to her until we can come together physically. I am looking forward to Vegas in May. She keeps asking me to give her work out advise so she can look her best for me in Vegas and last week sent me a picture of her butt and said how she needs to work on it cause it got bigger since i was in the hospital with cancer and she was worried and started eating alot of cookies. Should I go to meet her? Can you tell from what you know where she stands in this relationship? What should I do?

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I tried to help you, but you don’t seem to want my advice. 🙁 So, let me try again — but buckle up, because I’m going to be a little more specific and use some extra capital letters in an effort to get across to you.

SHE’S MARRIED! Stop wasting your time with someone who you met online [i]seven months ago[/i] in October WHEN SHE WAS MARRIED and now in April,[i] seven months later[/i], [b]SHE’S STILL MARRIED! [/b]

If you’d taken my advice and read the book I suggested (it would take a week and save you the months you’ve wasted since you last wrote me), you’d understand that “going through the divorce process” means she’s STILL MARRIED! (Date Out of Your League can be purchased for $8.99 and automatically downloaded here: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/date-out-of-your-league.html[/url]) Stop fooling yourself and get objective! Her husband isn’t trying to “take her children away from her”. He wants custody of those kids who are his, too. Maybe he’s actually a good dad! (He didn’t cheat on the kids — he cheated on her.)

Which is why [b]you [/b]SHOULD NOT be chatting with her young children online. It’s entirely inappropriate for you to put them in this position, and it’s confusing for them (along with a neurotic mother who sleeps with them because she’s afraid that if she doesn’t something will happen to them. 😯 ).

There are lots of women who are single (now there’s a novel idea!) and available and who live within an hour’s drive time of your home so you don’t have to meet in Vegas for a date while her husband babysits her children. 😮

Your friends are right. This won’t work, and you’re going to hurt people along the way. Choose someone who’s actually available to date. 🙂

See you @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url].

[wolfbrotherhood]

Ok since i last wrote you i took your advise right after and she just wanted to stay friends which was hard and I said that I did not wanna do that. I haven’t talked to her until about two days ago i text-ed her just to see how she was doing. She said that she moved far away and their devorse is final. The first question she asked me if i was seeing anyone. She started calling me hun. I don’t know what to think it took me along ting to not think about her all the time but then I hear her and my heart skips a beat. And I get butterflies. She wanted to fly out to see me this weekend but I told her that I work and I would let her know what weekend she could come out. She said she doesn’t have a boyfriend and it hard because she has only been with one person. We have gotten back into talking every day again, but it hurt so much last time letting her go that i don’t want to go through it again but then again I have deep feelings for her that I haven’t felt for ANYONE before. And I have never met her in person. Anyway My first question is she trying to get involved with me again or is she just wanting to remain friends? Should I get involved with her? Should I trust her? I really miss her. Here is our conversation.

wolfbrotherhood Ok how are u?

her Ok

wolfbrotherhood LOOK WHAT I CAME ACROSS TODAY

wolfbrotherhood I LIKEY I WOULD LICK IT AND EAT IT ALL OUT!!!!!

her Ewww

her U r a goof

wolfbrotherhood REMEMBER THIS ONE

her Why r u showing me these

wolfbrotherhood I JUST FOUND THEM AND WAS MISSING YOU

her Hey u how r u

wolfbrotherhood Ok I guess

wolfbrotherhood How are u?

her I know there r no words to say to take your fear away

her I’m praying an angel comes and wraps her wings around u and keeps u safe

wolfbrotherhood Thanks.

her I hope u r feeling so much better today

her R u ok

wolfbrotherhood No

her Awe hun hugs

her Thinking of u

wolfbrotherhood Oh ok

wolfbrotherhood Not good and very depressed. But doing ok other wise

her How r u feeling

wolfbrotherhood U mean call u?

her Talk to me if u would like

wolfbrotherhood I like talking to you y wouldn’t I

her Can I call in a bit ??

wolfbrotherhood Ok

her Hun sorry I didn’t call I fell asleep it’s been crazy here um headed to my la…

wolfbrotherhood Ok. It’s ok just fill me in when know

her Checking on u haven’t heard from u in awhile hope u r ok

wolfbrotherhood Yeah I’m here still

her R u ok

wolfbrotherhood Yeah

wolfbrotherhood What huh? How are u doing/

her Ok talk soon

her U dont seem like u want to talk

wolfbrotherhood I always wanna talk to u….

wolfbrotherhood No matter how thing are or how ever long it takes I LOVE YOU!!!! I can’t make…

her I want you happy you deserve to b happy

her You are an amazing man with a big heart

wolfbrotherhood I AM HAPPY WITH U!!!! I’M HAPPY LOVING YOU!!!! AND MY BIG HEART BEATS ALL FOR…

wolfbrotherhood Hey you I miss ya!!! Just don’t tell anyone I do I won’t admit it. LOL
Jun 29 (1 day ago)
her At work talk soon miss u too
Jun 29 (1 day ago)
wolfbrotherhood Ok
Jun 29 (1 day ago)
wolfbrotherhood Are u still up
Jun 29 (1 day ago)
wolfbrotherhood Goodmorning beautiful
12:24 PM (11 hours ago)
her Hey u how r u
12:30 PM (11 hours ago)
wolfbrotherhood Good I have a day off. How are u?
12:43 PM (11 hours ago)
her I’m good 🙂
12:48 PM (11 hours ago)
wolfbrotherhood You sound much happier. I really missed u a lot. And u have always been on my…
12:51 PM (11 hours ago)
her I think about u too
1:12 PM (10 hours ago)
wolfbrotherhood U do!?! So what do you think about when you think about me!?! I hope its good…
1:15 PM (10 hours ago)
her I’m not telling lol
1:16 PM (10 hours ago)
wolfbrotherhood Oh really and why not?
1:23 PM (10 hours ago)
her U goof what r u doing
1:24 PM (10 hours ago)
wolfbrotherhood Nice change in subject. It must have been really bad lol!!!!
1:26 PM (10 hours ago)
her U dork noooo
1:27 PM (10 hours ago)
wolfbrotherhood Yeah but u love my dorkyness I’m just relaxing enjoying my day off. I’m think…
1:35 PM (10 hours ago)
her Waiting for my sis to buy a new phone
1:36 PM (10 hours ago)
wolfbrotherhood That sounds fun… R u getting a new phone or just ur SIS?
1:44 PM (10 hours ago)
wolfbrotherhood Hey shorty did u just call me? I just got in the shower and I heard my phone …
1:50 PM (10 hours ago)
her Yes I did
1:50 PM (10 hours ago)
wolfbrotherhood Damn it!!!! I missed ur call!!!! Lol
1:54 PM (10 hours ago)

[April Masini, your AskApril]

[quote]Anyway My first question is she trying to get involved with me again or is she just wanting to remain friends? Should I get involved with her? Should I trust her? I really miss her. Here is our conversation.[/quote]

She’s lonely and she’s found a guy on the internet to ease her loneliness — that’s you. She doesn’t know what she wants, and no, you shouldn’t get involved with her BECAUSE she doesn’t know what she wants (and I’m not sure you do, either). I’m not sure what you want to trust her [i]with[/i]. 😯

My suggestion is to date women in your REAL LIFE not those you meet on the internet because you have a tendency to spend too much time with these cyber relationships instead of real life ones. Much healthier to date women in real life. 😉

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