[jayt443]

Hello, well to get to the point, i met this girl just under a year ago and we really seem to care for each other. The problem is, as far as interests we have absolutely nothing in common. Clothing, movies, food etc… I love that’s shes very caring but the time we spend together is getting kinda boring. Especially since of course we are on completely different sexual levels. On top of that she complains a lot and is extremely moody and hard to please.

With that said though, i believe her to have a lot of very rare and valuable traits I would definitely look for in a wife and i think she would make an excellent one. Overall i think she’s a great girl but she just bores me and gets on my nerves half the time… so I’m torn. I don’t know if i should stick around and put up and hope i get used to her or if i should try to move on. We are both 22 so there’s still plenty of time i suppose. But i don’t want to ruin would could potentially be a really good thing (or at least the best [i]I’m [/i]going to get) with pickyness.

[Ask April Masini]

Why settle for someone with whom you have nothing in common? Why not try to find someone who has those qualities you look for in a wife AND who has things in common with you and isn’t a complainer or extremely moody?

I don’t see a reason for you to continue dating this young woman. Sorry! I think you can do a lot better. 🙂

[Anonymous]

oh.. i guess i figured as much. 🙁
thx for the response

[optimistvik]

I feel living with a person full of contradiction will mak your life miserable so try to find some one who have the same thinking like yours.

[Ask April Masini]

Sometimes hearing what you don’t want to hear, is exactly what you need to hear. 😕

For some reason you seem attached to someone who really isn’t enhancing your life. If you realize that you need to be happy and satisfied in order to be a good partner in a relationship, then you’ll instinctively look for someone to date who makes you feel that way — naturally. When you both have some common interests and enjoy the life you have created together, then you’re dating smart.

Good luck! 🙂

[Ethan Morales]

You’re trying to convince yourself to stay with someone who clearly isn’t making you happy, and that’s a losing game. Caring for her isn’t enough if the connection feels forced, boring, or draining. The qualities that make her “wife material” don’t mean much if you’re not actually enjoying the relationship.

You’re only 22. You don’t need to settle just because she’s “good on paper.” Chemistry, shared energy, and ease matter as much as values. If you’re already irritated and bored now, that won’t magically improve later. You deserve someone who feels both right and alive to be with.

[Natalie Noah]

You’re trying to convince yourself to stay with someone who doesn’t actually make you happy and that’s such an easy trap to fall into when you see someone’s good traits and imagine their potential. But compatibility isn’t built on potential. It’s built on real-life connection, shared enjoyment, emotional ease, and the ability to feel like the best version of yourself when you’re with them. When spending time with someone regularly feels draining, dull, or tense, your body is already telling you the truth your mind is trying to negotiate with. You can admire a person’s kindness and still acknowledge that the relationship doesn’t nourish you. That doesn’t make you ungrateful it makes you honest.

And the belief that she might be “the best you’re going to get” is coming from fear, not clarity. At 22, you’re still discovering who you are, what you want, what excites you, and what kind of relationship feels like home. You don’t need to settle for someone who checks a few boxes but leaves your spirit tired. Being with the right person won’t require enduring boredom or moodiness hoping it magically transforms into joy. You deserve a connection where affection, attraction, and ease coexist where you feel understood, energized, and genuinely happy to be around each other. If you let yourself trust that, you’ll realize you’re not losing something… you’re simply making space for a relationship that actually fits you.

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