[Sara]

Hi, i have a crush on my cousin,he was my first one though i went out with other guys what i feel for him is just different it never seems to end..

[Ask April Masini]

I know you liken your story to Romeo and Juliet, but they were not related to each other. You and your cousin are. This makes your story VERY different. In addition, they BOTH wanted each other, and your guy isn’t very interested in you. 😳 But let’s get back to basics: It’s not a good idea to date someone who’s part of your family. So my first piece of advice is find someone who’s not our cousin or any other family member, to date. Not this cousin. 😕

Secondly, don’t chase men. If a man is interested in you, you’ll know because he’ll ask you out and he’ll want to spend time with you. When a man isn’t interested in spending time with you — trying to force him to, is futile. When you start chasing men, and ostensibly throwing yourself at them, you end up being the booby prize — and not the grand prize that every man wants.

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[Sara]

You know what i like about you miss april..you can be tough sometimes but you say what our hearts cant bear to accept and thank you !..but i dont think i gave you enough information..so here it goes:i can be sure about one thing..he doesnt want commitment now he wants to marry a serious women but in many years later,since hes the handsome convinced playboy who goes oUt with beautiful girls more like top models who just want to have fun. while i am good girl waiting for a serious commitment concentrating on my studies.. He mentions once in a while that the women hes planning to get married is me n that gives me aloot of hope, we talk aloot when we r together..hes told me stuff that he nver trusted to say to anyone before n even his most inner fears he told me..we have aloot in common and he is always amused at how i know him so well and i know we have this strong chemistry and passion that led us to kissing a few times before..the point is  our parents are best friends so like it or not we have to be together for family occasions and i am confused if i should continue talking to him hoping one day it might work or just ignore him for the rest of my life so i wont get hurt when one day he decides to get married to someone else and hes the kind of guy that if ignored..he will nevr mind to look at me again..

So doest this make a difference?

[Ask April Masini]

I still stand by my advice: [i]Don’t date your relatives![/i] I think it’s actually illegal to marry a first cousin in some parts of the world. Having children together could result in birth defects and other problems that are known to occur when two close relatives (like first cousins), make babies. I know you’re a good student who focuses on her studies, but you seem to have missed reading the chapter on genetic defects. Consider the horrific long term consequences — as well as the inappropriate social short term consequences.

That’s the bottom line:[u] Find someone to date who isn’t your cousin![/u] 😕

And even if he wasn’t your cousin, this is a man who isn’t ready to date someone like you. You’ve described him as a player who dates models and isn’t ready to settle down — and you’re a “good girl” who focuses on her studies, but who is interested in a bad boy. He’s not a good match for you — on top of the fact that you’re flirting with incest.

Move on! Next!

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[Sara]

Ok..i dnt think i missed that detail..first of all He is not my first cousin in fact hes a far away cousin because if he was i would have said cousin-brother to make it more obvious for you 😐

Second if there is one thing i am sure about is that i dont flirt with men because i believe confident women dont require such behaviour,and i dont recall texting someone for a decent talk being refered to as flirting with incest-being incest sexual intercourse between relatives 😉

Third..just forget it because this precious cousin Just sent me beautiful flowers 😀

[Ask April Masini]

I know my advice is not for everyone — but I’m always glad to help if you need it!

Good luck — and reconsider flirting! 😉

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