[kellio]

We have been married for 7 years now and have a 2 and 4 year old. Before the kids sex was fun, exciting and a big part of our lives. I know allot of things can change with a women after kids plus daily stress of raising kids, work and so on. Sex for the past 4 years has been maybe once a week and like ground hog day. (i probably should be happy im getting something) I have spoken with her and the conversation has been good but the out come isnt there. I have tried porn videos, toys, games, romancing etc and again there is sex but no intimacy. Now the more i try to find out what could make things spark im finding so many things she dosnt like (which she did in the past). She loves me and our relationship is good but im finding the intimacy gone and it really bugging me. I thought i was ok and id just live with it but now im finding it hard not to think of other women and thats a road i dont want to go down. Any advice????

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It sounds like a vacation with just the two of you may help. The other thing you can do that you haven’t yet tried is a sleepover date. Get a babysitter, and bring your wife somewhere romantic that culminates in an overnight hotel — or weekend. Getting her out of her environment may jolt her out of mommy-mode!

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