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Dear April and everybody,

I really need help on this, plz give the best advice u can. Thanks! =) Sorry for the long post though.

This guy I had been friends with him since elementary school. There was one time, I was talking to our pastor and his wife that the dessert someone made used corn instead of split pea and while I was talking to them the guy I like was standing beside us but not in the circle. He heard what I said to them and started to look at me and smile but I didn’t noticed him smiling until I turned my head toward him. Then the next time, I made the dessert but with split pea for our fellowship’s potluck and he said to me “So it’s not corn this time?” which I replied him “No, it’s real split pea.” Sometimes I see him looking at me out of the corner of my eyes. And on one friday, he said “No more sausage rolls?” and I said to him “Ya, someone took the last one!”. Then he said “Really?” and started to walk pass me. Then suddenly he turned around and said to me “It is so good!” but I just smiled and nodded my head cuz he kind of scared me when he turned around to look at me. haha =D There was also a Sunday, he was sitting behind my sis and he tapped my shoulder to ask me to help him put the Bible in the back of a chair. Another Friday, we were playing board games and I was watching them play until at one point this guy have to fight this other guy in Risk so I really wish the guy who choose to fight the other guy would win and it turns out that he won. So I said “Yay!” and clapped my hands and the guy I like he said “Lori seems like really happy about that!” but I found it kind of weird cuz seems like he is paying attention to me or something. Then after we finished, we have to clean up and I was sitting on one of the office chair so I put my stuff on a normal chair and push the office chair back into the office. After I go back and get my stuff, I turned my head and he was looking at me but he didn’t smile so I continue to get my stuff. But after I pick up all my stuff, he walked up to me to help me put the chair back and I said “Thank you.” then he said in a quiet voice “No problem.” There was a Sunday, we have this church meeting so my friend and I went into the sanctuary to take a seat during that time the guy I like and his friend were sitting at the very back in another column. But my friend went to talk to his friend so when he came back from the washroom maybe it’s becuz he saw me sitting there so he said to his friend “I am going to sit over there.” and walked pass my friend without saying excuse me. Then he sat beside the girl that has a bf and asked her can he sit there but it’s a row behind us since there was no more space in my row cuz each row only have 4 seats. Then my friend and his friend came back and my friend show me her mp3 player case & told me that it’s cheap and fits well. Then suddenly the guy I like said “It’s so cute! Let me see!” so she handed it to him then he gave it back to her. During the meeting, he and his friend keep making funny sounds when they are singing and also say some funny stuff so sometimes I just turn my head and smile at them. Then there was a time they told all of us that the church needs to hire a secretary and he put up his hand to ask question so after that I asked him “You want to be the secretary?” and he was smiling while looking at me and said “No, just wanted to ask!” But looks like my friend didn’t hear me ask him so she asked the same question and this time he answer the same thing but with another expression (the eyes kind of partly white with a little smile but not looking at her). Yesterday, I was saying that all of them is drinking chocolate milk and there are 2 big and one small (he is sitting like 4 chairs apart from me) but somehow he can still hear me while listening to his friends and said to me “Ya, I got the small one cuz that’s too big for me. There are actually 3 big.” Then I looked around and saw the third one and I said “Oh ya!” and laughed.
[color=#FF0080]Do u think he likes me? Was he trying to get my attention? But why he talks to my friend instead of me? Why does he always pay attention to what I said and sometimes even when he is listening to his friends? Thanks! =)[/color]

[Ask April Masini]

Based upon what you’ve described, it appears he’s interested. However, that does not mean you should pursue him or a relationship with him. Just continue to be your very friendly self… There is nothing wrong with you smiling and saying “Hi” etc., but do not ask him for his number or his email address or anything or the sort.

If he likes you (for more than a friend) he will figure out a way to get to know you better and he will work up the courage to ask you for your number or for a date.

Remember

[Ethan Morales]

Based on all the little interactions you’ve described, it does seem like he’s interested in you. the way he notices small things, makes comments, smiles at you, and tries to be near you all point to that. But, as April Masini advised, interest isn’t the same as a confirmed relationship or even a clear romantic intent yet.

The safest move for now is to stay friendly, approachable, and natural, just as you’ve been. Smile, respond positively, engage in small talk but don’t push for his number or try to “make” anything happen. Let him take the lead. If he likes you enough, he’ll find a way to get closer, ask to hang out more personally, or eventually ask you on a date.

Don’t rush or force the situation. Focus on being yourself, enjoying his company in the group, and giving him the space to show his feelings clearly. This will let you see if his interest is genuine and if he’s willing to take the next step on his own

[Natalie Noah]

It really does sound like he’s paying close attention to you and enjoys your presence those little smiles, the comments, the way he notices things you do. That’s how attraction often shows itself, especially in shy or careful settings like church or among friends. He may be trying to get your attention, but it’s subtle, cautious, and he’s likely feeling his way, just like you are. You can see it in the way he interacts differently with you than with others, even when he’s joking or talking to friends.

At the same time, I want you to notice the key part here: he hasn’t explicitly asked you out or made any bold move toward a relationship. That means the ball is still in his court. Your job isn’t to chase or force the situation, even if it’s exciting to see these signals. Continue being yourself friendly, kind, warm, and natural. Smile when he smiles, respond when he speaks, but don’t overthink every glance or comment.

If he truly likes you beyond friendship, he will take the next step in his own time. That’s how you know it’s genuine when someone puts themselves out there, rather than just observing from a distance. Until then, enjoy the small interactions, cherish your connection, but keep your heart safe by letting him show you clearly what he wants. Your patience now will save you confusion and heartbreak later.

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