[Lexielonglegs2]

April, how can you say nice guys lose out??? lose out to cocky arrogant guys who appear disinterested. Ive seen loads of guys, boys/men who look gentle, nice, polite, and many of them are with a girl and the girl in many cases are pretty. BEST WISHES, Lexie x

[Ask April Masini]

Good question, [b]Lexielonglegs2[/b]!

In general, nice guys do finish last and the reason is that most women like “bad boys”. They feel that the guy who is always ready and waiting for them, always willing to do whatever they want, when they want it, and who will drop everything for them on a moment’s notice — isn’t as interesting as the guy who’s more of a challenge. 😉 When a guy has an interesting life, he’s not always available, and when he’s desired by lots of women — there is competition! 😎 And, hey — sometimes when you see couples on the street, they look one way, and in real life, live differently than you suppose they might.

Check out this column I wrote: [url]https://www.askapril.com/dating-tips-why-nice-guys-finish-last-1029.html[/url].

I think it’s great that you’re considering the different types of men…. and not [i]all[/i] nice guys are doormats. But it’s good to educate yourself on dating, so you can date smart and find love and a healthy, happy relationship!

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[Candyes]

I agree with Lexie here.
I have always preferred nicer guys, as opposed to the annoying “bad boy” alternative…
Though, I think that a lot of guys confuse being very needy and open about how they feel with being nice, as any self-proclaimed nice guys I’ve met have been very clingy, to the point of borderline stalker… And I think that’s where the real “nice guys finish last” BS came from, was guys coming on too strong and creeping out their love interest (I’ve only had one experience with this, mind you, and I was scared around the guy more than I felt comfortable around him, and he moved long before I recovered from his… Affections…) 😳

[Ask April Masini]

The typical nice guy who is losing out, can really benefit from some of the behavior of a guy who doesn’t return calls right away, isn’t always available, and is appreciated by other women! The reality is that women really like men who are desired by others. And they want a guy who’s not always available because he’s got a life, a schedule and interests. There’s no question about it — a guy who drops everything for you sounds good on paper, but in real life, these guys get taken for granted, and taken advantage of, and if they take a lesson from the less than “nice guy” profile, they may actually do better for themselves.

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