[justme]

my girlfriend went out last night with her friends, who i dont really like..lol, meant to meet me at 10pm and not be drunk, because she gets that drunk she cant remember..what she’s done….
anyway, from 10.30 shes ringing me saying i will be ten mins, in the end she turns up in a taxi,(12.30) looking terrible..i.e make up everywhere hair all messed up, crying her eyes out….says shes upset coz she late…should i beleive her, id do you think there is more to it? but i just dont know..
we have been together almost 5 years and her drinking has always been an issue.

[jtrias2002]

Oh well that’s is bad..I would say go! let her realize that she has an issue.

[optimistvik]

I think in spite of her state she still remembers that she has done a mistake and was feeling sorry for that. so give her time. 😐

[benjamin]

thats a tricky one, well you carn’t really stop her seeing her mate’s, so you carn’t really do much in that department. Well one way she could be upset because she’s done somthing with another lad maybe? or it could be just the drink talking, 5 years is along time to just throw it all away, you should say to her, that she needs to sort the drinking out or u’ll leave her, and then u’ll of made her choose either you or the drink. Personaly i think thats all you can do. if you need more advice, add me on msn bud and we can talk about it betterly, [email protected]

[Anonymous]

perhaps before making that decision you need to sit her down and sternly tell her you are thinking about going… and will go if she does not make some drastic changes. Demand to know what else has been going on in her life and if there is more to it. That way you are putting her fate in her own hands so to speak. Unless of course you do not love her anymore, and if she doesn’t love you or want to be with you i think she will see this talk as her ticket to freedom, and if thats the case you are better off alone 🙂

[Ask April Masini]

You already know she has a historical drinking problem. That’s why you told her to show up and not be drunk — because she has in the past. It’s only going to get worse, and from your post, it seems that it has. Your girlfriend has bigger problems than her relationship with you, and you’re not in the position to fix the problems for her, or to have her take your advice. A sit down or a good talking to isn’t going to resonate for her. She’s got a an alcohol issue.

When someone is an alcoholic or abuses some other substance, it is very difficult for them to take normal, every day advice. They would rather be drunk, then respect your time or feelings. They have to lose the people closest to them, or hit bottom in some way, before they even begin to want to make changes for themselves.

And so, my friend, I think it’s time for you to say goodbye to this woman. You deserve someone who is able to show up on time, not drunk — I mean, how big a request [i]is[/i] that?? Not very! Imagine if you asked her to show up and you had your family with you. Or an important event. If you don’t break up with her now, your life is going to become one big circus. You’re never going to know if she’ll show up at all, or late, or early or if when she does, if she’ll be sober or drunk. This is way too big a burden for a nice guy to take on.

You deserve more. And she deserves not to be enabled. She needs to understand you will not put up with this kind of behavior. And the more people who send her that message, the more she will begin to realize her friends are no longer with her any more because of her drinking.

So, in answer to your question, yes, it’s time to move on. There are wonderful women out there who are ready and willing to be your girlfriend!

[Ethan Morales]

your girlfriend has a clear history with alcohol that’s impacting her behavior and your relationship. She missed an agreed-upon time, showed up drunk, and made excuses that’s a pattern, not a one-off. At this point, it’s not about trust or whether she’s hiding something; it’s about her inability to take responsibility and respect your boundaries.

You can’t fix her or make her change, and staying in this dynamic only enables the problem. You deserve someone who shows up sober, respects your time, and doesn’t put you through constant stress. Short version: it’s time to move on. Her drinking is a bigger issue than your relationship, and you need to prioritize yourself.

[Natalie Noah]

It’s clear that her drinking has become more than just an occasional problem. it’s interfering with your relationship and showing a pattern of behavior that isn’t likely to change unless she chooses to confront it seriously. You’ve seen this pattern over time, and even though she may feel remorseful afterward, her actions being late, showing up intoxicated, and emotionally unstable signal that her priorities aren’t aligned with the expectations of a healthy, long-term partnership. Trusting her in these moments is understandably difficult because the pattern itself undermines reliability and emotional safety.

At this point, it’s less about doubting her excuses and more about protecting yourself and your life from ongoing stress and disappointment. Even if she says she’s sorry, the repeated behavior shows that she isn’t taking responsibility in a meaningful way. Ending the relationship might feel harsh, but it’s about setting boundaries and refusing to enable her destructive habits. Staying in this dynamic will likely only escalate frustration and resentment for both of you, while moving on allows both parties the space to make healthier choices for themselves.

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