[cosmic ninja]

I am a young man fresh out of college and recently moved back home. About a month ago I got a haircut at my usual salon and had a short but nice chat with the new shampoo girl while waiting for the stylist to arrive. She’s about my age, cute, and I like her personality, and I got to thinking it’d be fun to ask her out. However, asking girls out on a whim isn’t my strong suit. I was lucky in college to sort of fall into two great relationships without too much effort other than being a good friend. Obviously I don’t have the luxury of becoming this girl’s friend before asking her out, and I don’t have a good track record of asking someone out who I just met.

Now that I’m older I’m not really nervous about rejection, but I don’t quite know how to go about chatting it up with this particular girl. After all, she’s at work, and not only do I not want to make things awkward either in the shop (or the next time I come in if she says no), but I’d like to avoid embarrassing myself and her in front of the stylists and customers. In fact I just got my hair cut today and I was so unsure of the situation I completely failed to do anything more than a bit of small talk. (However, I did ask her about her holiday plans and didn’t hear anything about a boyfriend, so I might have a shot.) Hopefully, in another month I’ll have the chance to ask her how her holidays were and get a conversation going, but again I don’t know how to work with the timing and the atmosphere.

Furthermore, right now I’m unemployed and living with my folks. I’m training to be a teacher and I think I have a shot at becoming a professional tutor in the meantime, but given my situation I don’t want to appear unattractive or be incapable of upholding a relationship, let alone a first date.

Thanks for reading my post 🙂

[Ask April Masini]

It’s understandable that you may not want to show up at the salon, unannounced and ask to see her during work hours, but what you can do is call and find out the days she works and what her hours are — and then show up. Showing up at the beginning or the end of her work day is a lot better than showing up in the middle of the day. You can ask if she’s around, and re-introduce yourself. Chances are she will remember you and will be flattered that you showed up for her. If she seems busy, you can let her know that you couldn’t get her out of your mind, and wondered if she’d like to have coffee with you or a drink, this weekend. If she says yes, immediately make a date for, say, Saturday at 7 at a particular place, and ask her for her phone number. You can pick her up or meet her there. If you show up at the salon to ask her out, and she’s swamped with work, give her your best smile and tell her you haven’t been able to get her out of your mind, and wanted to take her for a drink or to go ice skating — or something charming and fun. Tell her that you’ll stop by again next week, and then, try to get her on her down time, so you can ask her out. Then, do so. This gives her the week, or the next few days, to think about you and wonder if you’re going to stop by! If all else fails, make another haircut appointment! It also makes you look more attractive because you’re not desperate to make a date, but you are interested, and you’ve got a plan to stop by again. 😉

Hope that helps!

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[Lune David]

This is honestly kind of wholesome awkward in a very human way. You’re not scared of rejection, you’re just trying not to turn a normal haircut into a rom-com gone wrong, and that’s fair. Asking someone out while they’re working is tricky, especially when you don’t want to make it weird for either of you next time you need a trim.

The good news? You don’t need a perfect job, a perfect line, or a perfect moment to ask someone for coffee. You need confidence and respect and you already have both. Being between jobs and living at home doesn’t cancel out your personality or your future. Everyone starts somewhere, and ambition counts.

AskApril’s advice is solid because it keeps things low-pressure and kind. A simple “Hey, I’d love to grab coffee sometime” at the right moment is charming, not creepy. And if she says no? You still walk out with a fresh haircut and your dignity intact.

Also, it’s Christmas people are already in a softer, more reflective mood. If there’s ever a season where a little courage and a warm smile work in your favor, it’s now. Worst case scenario: you get a polite no. Best case: coffee, laughter, and a story that starts with “So we met at a salon

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