[Anonymous]

Hi i was extremely happily married to the man i love for 33 years. I was the love of his life and he was mine. Unfortunately i ran away from him whilst going through the most awful time of my life and didn’t have a clue what was happening to me. I was scared, i lost weight and i left him. Yet couldn’t leave him entirely. Imagine my shock when he went off with someone else after 6 months. I had a breakdown and it was then that i was finally diagnosed as suffering with severe depression and ocd which we both hadn’t had a clue about! As he came back to me once after i left him and told me i could move back home any time i wanted if i stopped all the cleaning and i again pulled back, still didn’t know what was the matter with me and so i again pulled away and sent him straight into the other woman’s arms. She had been waiting for him and let him know she was there for him. I had a breakdown and it took years for me to get myself back together again and address my problems and I now feel very proud of myself and know how strong i am. I’m happy with who i am at last and live a life that makes me happy. He divorced me 2 years ago and i’ve pretty much kept out of his way in that time, as i knew when he would be visiting our daughter. More recently though we’ve been bumping into one another as i’ve felt more like facing him and being where he is and not avoiding him and about a month ago he started to give me a kiss goodbye upon leaving, instead of the usual wave into the air which had been my usual form of goodbye!! He’s done this now about 4 times on different occasions and the kisses have been straight on the lips! I don’t have a clue about his other relationship apart from she lives with him in his house which he moved to and bought when we broke up. He’s recently been treated for prostrate cancer and i got in touch with an offer of support and help. I don’t bother him, i let him get on with his life while i get on with mine. Any thoughts on this situation and what it might mean – if anything?

[Ask April Masini]

It sounds like things with your ex are SLOWLY, but certainly, moving in a direction of greater intimacy — but don’t read more into this than there is. [i]For now[/i], be open, pleasant, and enchanting — if you want a second chance with him. Although you have a history together, if you want to date him and get back together with him, you’re going to have to be his girlfriend first, and to do that, he has to ask you out on a date which he hasn’t — yet. So one step at a time, and for now, wait and see if he asks you out.

I hope that helps.

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