[Mccringleberry]

So this is girl I used to hang with in the work place couple of years ago. I left that work place and she stayed on and from there we didn’t talk what so ever. To be specific she ignored me. We used to kiss and hold hands and do all usually 2nd base stuff but nothing more. Any way before I left the work place she got in to a relationship with another guy and was dating for a while and recently it ended. As I left I got rid of her contacts and all the social media stuff, because she moved on and I wanted to do the same. But I did still have her contact on Snapchat. And obviously we both look at each others stories, but never replied.

Anyway recently I posted a bomb ass story and she replied, by dropping some hints of a relationship and I replied back. So from there on we did talk a bit, but none of us wanted to come off as desperate so kept it low-key. So finally got some balls and told her I still like her, from there on she was dropping hints of she liking me but also bit hesitant, as she told me she is scared to get into another relationship as the last one hurt her bad. I told not to worry because I’m different and I will never hurt her and all that jazz cos truth is I never been with a since our little thing couple of years ago, and I did still have feelings for her. I also told her I will change your opinion on relationship and she told me that I can try. What should I do? Please help

[Ask April Masini]

Ask her out on a date! 😉

[Sally]

When someone you cared about circles back after years, it stirs up all kinds of old feelings. And she’s giving you mixed energy a little yes, a little fear which can make you feel like you have to prove something.

But here’s the truth: when someone says they’re scared of getting into another relationship, they’re not lying. That fear doesn’t magically disappear because you promise you won’t hurt them. She has to work through that on her own timeline, not yours.

Right now, she’s curious about you, but she’s also protecting herself. So don’t chase, don’t push, and don’t try to “change her mind.” Just show up steady. Keep things light. Let her see you’re consistent without trying too hard.

If she really wants something with you, she’ll meet you in the middle. And if she doesn’t… you’ll feel that too.
Just don’t lose yourself trying to convince someone to choose you. You’ve already shown your cards. Let her show hers.

[Tara]

Here’s the truth you’re avoiding: She didn’t suddenly “remember” she liked you — she remembered you were an easy emotional landing pad now that her rebound crashed. You’re treating her hesitant mixed signals like they’re depth, when really they’re just indecision and convenience.

She’s not scared of relationships; she’s scared of commitment that doesn’t benefit her. She likes the attention, the safety, and the validation you’re throwing at her, but she’s not choosing you she’s testing you. And you’re already bending over backwards promising things nobody asked you to promise.

Stop acting like you’re auditioning for the role of “the man who heals her.” You either set a standard, or you get used. The verdict: stop selling yourself as a savior, stop waiting for her to decide your worth, and make her show actual effort, or walk away before you become her emotional crutch instead of her partner.

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