[cesalia88]

ive come here about this because nobody else has helped or doesnt know the situation well enough to give legit advice to me. i am in a rut, big time. i am one of those females who have a lot of guy friends, but i have this friend, we’re very very close much closer than the rest. when i met him we automatically were magnetized to each other and have been inseperable ever since. he left for the army a little over a year ago, which means we don’t see each other much but were still very close and stay in contact as much as possible. he was deployed to afghanistan in august, and is home on leave right now for 15 days. here is the issue. im pretty sure i knew this from the get go, but admitted out loud to my sister in law a few months ago that i was in love with him which made it more realistic. i dont know how to approach this. he has been home for 10 days already and ive been with him every single one, i’ve slept over his house, stayed up until 3am with him when i had work at 9am just listening to music or watching movies, i hate when people touch me but we can never seem to get close enough to each other. its this constant thing where neither of us have the guts to kiss the other one. he leaves in 5 days to go back to afghanistan and wont be back for 8 more months. i dont know if i should just blurt this out, or deal with not saying anything and keeping this friendship in tact in case it doesnt work the way i want it to.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

It’s not [i]that[/i] complicated! He is holding back from making a move because he knows he’s going back to Afghanistan shortly and doesn’t want to appear as if he’s using you. He’s a gentleman. My advice is to continue doing what you’re doing, but make sure YOU don’t make the first move. Men want to be the ones who make that first move. They want to be the guy who hunts and captures — and when you allow that to happen, they feel great about themselves, you and the relationship.

So I know you’re chomping at the bit to express yourself, but stay cool. You’re doing everything right — don’t blurt anything out. Enjoy the romance. You’re in his heart. Now let things unfold. 🙂

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