[Anonymous]

i really need help. i have liked this same guy, matthew, for 3 years now. we have hooked up at a few parties. and stayed at each others houses a few times and had sex, but whenever i afterwards ask what is going on between us he immediately says sorry it was a mistake and wont happen again, but every chance there is he takes it. i have tried everything in the book to get over him, i went on a holiday for 2 months, started dating other guys, avoiding him. but it doesnt seem to work. everytime i would date someone else i would feel both guilty and upset because i wanted to be with him. when i went away i missed him like crazy, because i talk to him a lot. mostly as a friend never about each other, and when i tried to avoid him he asked what was up.
i really need help. i did the whole 12 year old thing and asked his friends but they said he said nothing. it is quite infuriating. i just want to know if he sees me as anything else.

[April Masini, your AskApril]

No. He doesn’t see you as anything else than someone to sleep with without commitment. 😳 Maybe seeing it in black and white will help you get over your crush on him. This is a guy who will sleep with you because he can. And as long as you make it possible for him to sleep with you, he’ll continue to do so. He doesn’t care about you as a girlfriend. I know that’s harsh, but if you want to get over him, you have to stop chasing a man who doesn’t care about you as anything other than someone to have sex with. Period.

Get the book Think & Date Like A Man, [url]https://www.askapril.com/dating-advice-books.html[/url] at this link or on the websites for Amazon and Barnes & Noble, and read it. It will give you all the advice you need to find Mr. Right. This guy isn’t even close.

Men have sex because they can. They take you out on dates and make you their girlfriends and wives because they want you. Learn the difference and use it to your advantage!

I hope that helps — let me know how things go. I hope you’ll follow me @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

[Anonymous]

thankyou, i took your advice and i think its working. i went to his house for his birthday party and when he tried something i said no. since then we have just been talking like the good friends we used to be. it sounds weird but i feel happier now knowing we can be friends; my girlfriends have also noticed that i seem a lot less stressed now! its great!

[April Masini, your AskApril]

I’m glad I was able to help, and I still hope you’ll read Think & Date Like A Man, for more advice on why being “just friends” isn’t a great idea! Here’s the link: [url]https://www.askapril.com/relationship-dating-advice/think-and-date-like-a-man.html[/url].

See you @AskAprilcom on Twitter and on Facebook at this link: [url][/url]. 😀

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